justwhoiam Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Are you male? Female? How old are you both? How far from each other? How often can you meet? For random advice, you can just google... 2
Author eatwritelove4ever Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 I'm 30 and female. He's 27. I'm in California and he's in Oregon. We were seeing each other once every few weeks before but right now we both have a lot going on so not sure how the near future will pan out. I've found letter writing, texts, calls, emails, etc. help. But goodness LDRs are not ideal.
justwhoiam Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I'm 30 and female. He's 27. I'm in California and he's in Oregon. We were seeing each other once every few weeks before but right now we both have a lot going on so not sure how the near future will pan out. Well, I guess you'd be meeting at least 6 times a year... I've found letter writing, texts, calls, emails, etc. help. But goodness LDRs are not ideal. Yeah... we all struggle with that. So, about keeping the spark alive... I guess you should have things for when you're far away and things for when you're together in person. For when you're far away from each other, besides the list you provided, you can add videochat, and being intimate as you can on the phone or through videochat. You can add some fun activities to do together if you both like that: cooking, watching a movie, anything he could find sexy about you. I've been told I was sexy while ironing......... Or maybe you can make it sexy for him. He can have some clear mental images of you for when you're not around. And in pretty common situations. Or even extraordinary ones. I know it can feel silly... everything can be fun if you're sharing good moments with him. Moments he will remember. Some couples exchange love packages... You could give him something he can always wear that will remind him of you. Anyway, not to be repetitive, but I guess anything intimate is good for a guy. Anything sexy or that can make him feel like a real man will be appreciated. Be creative. I even sang for him and he sang for me. I still have the recording... Maybe don't do that if you're too off-key! You can sing something sexy. He was quite off-key but I loved it. So much fun. And actually he recorded it while we were together. See what works for you. Let him have something you wear. And have something he wore. It will have his smell on it and you'll feel less lonely when you're apart for some time. There are tons of ideas... While when you're together in person, you can plan a few things in advance. For every visit, have something new to do, something no one of you ever did. Be sure though that not all the ideas come from you. You don't want to stress him out, but that the same time, you can't do things for both. It would become unbalanced and you'd get frustrated. I know from experience. I think that if the time span between visits grows, you'll struggle a bit more with each other's needs. And you'll need to find a new balance that makes both of you happy. 3
Author eatwritelove4ever Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 Wow, justwhoiam. So many good suggestions I had to print your response. Thank you. Your personal experiences really show that you know what it's like to rock an LDR. Sometimes they really are worth it. Thanks again. Solid advice. And so cute you two recorded a song together.
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