Frankt Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Hello everyone i don't have many people that could give me advice so maybe I can get help here. In September my girlfriend of 2 years wanted to breakup. I was so wrapped up in my personal issues that I let it happen pretty easily. After 2 week of not speaking to her she asked if I wanted to meetup and hangout. Me being the idiot I am blew her off and it basically cemented the breakup. After about 6 months of no contact we exchanged texts but nothing significant. So she is dating another guy which I'm not too surprised about. Here is my issue last week she texted me out of the blue and asked if I can do her a favor that she "knew" I would do. She wanted me to ask " can you ask your friend if my boyfriend is cheating on me I think he is and I want to know so I can dump his dumb ass". Now is this request just a basic one because she can easily find out on her own or is there something deeper ? Any insight would be very much appreciated.
aisuru Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 HA HA Do I have this right? She wants you to do the legwork to find out if her current boyfriend is cheating on her? How incredibly sadistic and manipulative of her. 'NO' is a complete sentence. NO CONTACT is a great tool. She is using you while letting you know there may be bread crumbs incoming soon. How sweet of her to provide you with a heads up. 1
Author Frankt Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 I appreciate the response. I told her two days later I'm not getting involved and to do what she wants to do. And by breadcrumbs what do you mean that they are incoming lol sorry if I should know that one.
aisuru Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Bread crumbs are when an ex starts reaching out to you via various methods, phone calls, texts, emails, etc. that make you feel they may be interested, but it never moves toward reconciliation. Bread crumbs make the initator of said bread crumbs feel better as they continue to move along in their life while bread crumbs make the receiver feel more anxious at HOPE! SWEET HOPE! Yeah... there's usually no hope. They're pretty common after the ex splits from their most recent boy/girlfriend and/or they go through a life change. You're the warm fuzzy safe spot. Sounds like that is exactly what she's preparing you for. Shut it down if you're smart. Particularly if you have hope at reconciliation and she's just playing you for emotional support. Since you're posting this in 'Second Chances,' I'm guessing you still have a sliver of hope.
Simon Phoenix Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 I appreciate the response. I told her two days later I'm not getting involved and to do what she wants to do. And by breadcrumbs what do you mean that they are incoming lol sorry if I should know that one. Very smart decision. You definitely don't need that drama in your life. I'd shy away from contact with her for a while.
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