Infomercials Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I've finally had the "come to Jesus" moment with myself. NC it is, and I plan to stick with it. I've told him everything I could possibly feel like I needed to tell him and more, and I know exactly how he feels. However, under a certain set of circumstances (including his commitment to be sober as #1), I would want to give this relationship a try again. I've laid out what I would need to happen for that--it's no secret from him. What I'm wondering is how to keep up NC and move forward while I still have hope. It's not like I'm sure things will work out for us someday, but I do have hope. He's trying to make excuses to see me, and I'm ignoring them. I understand he and I need significant time to work on ourselves. He needs to figure out if he's worth working on...and, if so, if our relationship is worth working on. I know there have been success stories (few and far between), but I'm finally really prepared to go NC no matter what he does. I'm going to be strong enough even though it'll be hard. What I want to know is that, with a real possibility of reconciliation (someday), how do I move on without giving up hope? I've finally realized that the only way we could possibly ever fix this is to fix ourselves apart, but I don't know how to give up the possibilities.
supaflyz Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Hope is what keeping you from moving on. I use to have hope as well. Its dying everyday. A bonfire turning into a glimpse of light now. Your ex knows how to contact you. I'm sorry to say it my friend but hope is what making you feel bad now. ONce you can let go of hope is when you can actually move on. For me I still have hope that is why I still feel bad and cry sometimes. 1
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