theonlyjuan Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I am a guy. I have just been dumped from a 6 month relationship. Everything was going so great and I thought we were having such a good time together. She tells me it's over because something isn't right, or something was missing. I found out a day later that she doesn't love me yet, and doesn't think time will change anything. Obviously there is nothing I can do. I can't force her to love me. I just feel like I have had my heart ripped out. She was so lovely, kind and pretty and lived very close by. I thought it was all a bit too good to be true. This just came out of nowhere. I fell so shocked and all over the place. I have had a 7 year relationship end before and that was not as bad as this. I just can't believe I have lost her, and I will never be the one that she loves. I wish I could change something, but it's just not possible. I appreciate her telling the truth and I can see why she did it now and not in the future. I just think 6 months might not be enough for her to know for sure. Obviously I think that because I want her so badly. I'm just such a mess right now and don't seem to be able to do anything but cry and feel depressed. I have 0 appetite and just feel sick all the time. I don't feel I will get anyone as good as her, ever again. Any advice would be really appreciated. I know I'm not the only one out there, but I do feel alone right now
forgetmenot75 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Just go NC and wait. There's nothing you can do right now, you cannot force her to love you. Just go NC for a couple months, you'll feel better and if she really wants you back, she will let you know. I don't think she deserves you though, so its better you start mourning now so you can move on faster.
Chi townD Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I think what's making this so hard for you is that she's really not giving you a REAL reason on why she's ending it with you. "Something doesn't feel right." Okay, what doesn't feel right? "Something is missing." Okay, what is missing? The fact that she eagar to toss you aside without any REAL reason is what's making this difficult for you. Thing is, she knows. She's just not telling you. You don't toss someone aside for no apparent reason.
Author theonlyjuan Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 The missing something is her not loving me she said. I just don't want her to be making a mistake but she said time wouldn't change it. She seems pretty certain she will not love me. She said I am the nicest person ever and the perfect boyfriend. I don't want to live with the tiniest bit of hope of her coming back saying she was wrong. At the same time I just can't let go of the fact it's all over. Obviously I want her to be happy, but the thought of someone else making her happy one day is killing me. The 6 months I spent with her were the best I have ever had.
Ale khun Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I'm very sorry that U feel that way , it's something that most of us here had experienced all that sadness and pain after a BU it's just horrible but it's better to know now that she doesn't love you , it's better to end a 6 month RL than a 2 or 3 year RL . If you see it that way she did you a favor telling you now and being honest with you about her feelings . I'm not saying that u shouldn't be sad or angry with this situation but please don't torture yourself thinking that she is going be happy and love somebody else one day don't allow your mind to hurt you , now you need all the strenght and optimism to get over her this is the difficult part but its not impossible . Like someone told me : better sooner than later .
Author theonlyjuan Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 I did like her a lot but I never gave much thought about being in love. I was going with the flow, enjoying getting to know her and not over thinking things. Due to my own insecurities I thought about her leaving me one day. I didn't think it would be so soon. Just lately she was getting funny about other girls. She used to be very jealous when she was with her ex. She was always convinced I really liked this girl I had a thing with just before her. I can't help but think this played a big part in her not letting herself love me. Maybe she didn't want to let herself be open to getting hurt. I know some couples just don't click together at the same time. Maybe this is me just looking for some hope, but I don't want to live in hope. I still very much want to be her friend. We get on really well, I know it won't be the same but I don't want her to disappear out of my life. I have come to realize i can't bare my own company. I have already thought about new relationship etc I don't know why I feel like I have to have someone. After my 7 year relationship, i got with someone within a month, then a month after her, I got with my current ex. Do I have problems?
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