na49 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 My girlfriend and I already don't see each other enough (in my opinion) and now that she has a job this summer where she works all week including some weekends, seeing her will be more difficult. This has caused me to feel pretty depressed. I'm not sure if this is the right place to be posting this, but I want to know how you guys who are far away from your SO and don't see them much deal with it? Do you ever feel super depressed about it?
youngnlove89 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 My girlfriend and I already don't see each other enough (in my opinion) and now that she has a job this summer where she works all week including some weekends, seeing her will be more difficult. This has caused me to feel pretty depressed. I'm not sure if this is the right place to be posting this, but I want to know how you guys who are far away from your SO and don't see them much deal with it? Do you ever feel super depressed about it? I know what you mean, Na. My bf and I have polar opposite schedules. He works 2-10pm every day, his days off our Tues and Weds. I work a normal 8-5 with Sat and Sun as my day off. It's very difficult to spend time together. And if we do, I have to come over at 10pm and get up early for work. His days off, I work and I'll see him sometimes, but he does have friends that he wants to hang out with too. It is very hard. I too get depressed about it because how can this last in the long run? But the thought of not having him in my life is unbearable. I get anxious thinking about it. I rather have him in my life than not at all. The best thing to do is just to cope with what is possible. To create your own life, have your own friends and make the time you do get to spend with her the best you can make it. 1
HeavenOrHell Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 All I can say is count your blessings you don't have to wait weeks or months before seeing you're partner. I didn't deal well not seeing my partner for 2 months at a time.
Author na49 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Good point. Having her in my life (and not around all the time) is much better than having her out of it completely. She wants to do whatever is possible to make time but also isn't going take many days off (aside from our birthdays) because once school starts she won't be working at all. I try my best to create my own life and we are always in contact with each other. It's just an empty feeling if I think about it too much.
Author na49 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 All I can say is count your blessings you don't have to wait weeks or months before seeing you're partner. I didn't deal well not seeing my partner for 2 months at a time. Actually I've had to wait a week or two previously when we were both busy, and now it feels like I may have to wait more. with no set date because she gets a different schedule each week. So an off day for her may be a day I'm working. It sucks.
HeavenOrHell Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I understand it must be difficult, I'm just looking at it from an entirely different perspective simply because I would so love to see my partner (ex now as I couldn't cope with the distance) once or twice a month, it would've made a huge difference. It's all relative isn't it! I hope things will work out for you Good point. Having her in my life (and not around all the time) is much better than having her out of it completely. She wants to do whatever is possible to make time but also isn't going take many days off (aside from our birthdays) because once school starts she won't be working at all. I try my best to create my own life and we are always in contact with each other. It's just an empty feeling if I think about it too much.
LittleTiger Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 My girlfriend and I already don't see each other enough (in my opinion) and now that she has a job this summer where she works all week including some weekends, seeing her will be more difficult. This has caused me to feel pretty depressed. I'm not sure if this is the right place to be posting this, but I want to know how you guys who are far away from your SO and don't see them much deal with it? Do you ever feel super depressed about it? In the beginning it was a nightmare but we've been doing it so long I think we're just used to it! It's amazing how adaptable people can be if something matters enough. We now have a steady routine of talking on Skype at either end of the day - just as though we were coming home to one another, or getting up in the morning together, but without the physical contact. It's not ideal but we just get on with our lives, focus on other things and look forward to our Skype chats and the times when we can be together for real. Are you able to talk to your girlfriend on Skype, even if you can't actually get to see her? I'm sure you would find that it helps a lot. 1
Author na49 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 In the beginning it was a nightmare but we've been doing it so long I think we're just used to it! It's amazing how adaptable people can be if something matters enough. We now have a steady routine of talking on Skype at either end of the day - just as though we were coming home to one another, or getting up in the morning together, but without the physical contact. It's not ideal but we just get on with our lives, focus on other things and look forward to our Skype chats and the times when we can be together for real. Are you able to talk to your girlfriend on Skype, even if you can't actually get to see her? I'm sure you would find that it helps a lot. Yeah we have nightly Skype conversations. We always have even when she wasn't working. It's something to look forward to that we both enjoy. I guess the frustrating thing is that she isn't even THAT far away but it feels like she lives on another planet because I can't see her all the time and work will just make things more difficult. We dealt with something similar last summer and got through it, but my feelings are much stronger for her now so this is more of an issue now.
LittleTiger Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Yeah we have nightly Skype conversations. We always have even when she wasn't working. It's something to look forward to that we both enjoy. I guess the frustrating thing is that she isn't even THAT far away but it feels like she lives on another planet because I can't see her all the time and work will just make things more difficult. We dealt with something similar last summer and got through it, but my feelings are much stronger for her now so this is more of an issue now. If you don't live that far apart and you're missing her that much, maybe it's time to make it official! If that's too drastic for you, perhaps you can just move in together.
Author na49 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 If you don't live that far apart and you're missing her that much, maybe it's time to make it official! If that's too drastic for you, perhaps you can just move in together. We're still young. I'm 18, she's 19. We both go to college together, we met at an orientation. I don't make nearly enough money to consider moving in right now.
LittleTiger Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 We're still young. I'm 18, she's 19. We both go to college together, we met at an orientation. I don't make nearly enough money to consider moving in right now. Ah well, just have to grin and bear it then eh? Sorry, for teasing you - but you will cope somehow. Just focus on your studies, spend time with your friends and enjoy your daily Skype chats. Look forward to the times when you will see her - if it's only for the Summer, it will be over before you know it. 1
Author na49 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 I guess dealing with it is all I can do. No amount of me feeling depressed will let me see her more. She's happy she has the job, I'm happy for her, I'm just bummed it will make it harder for us to see each other. Oh well. I've dealt with it before, I'll deal with it again. Once school starts, she'll be much closer and we'll see each other all the time on campus. Probably one of the only reasons I won't mind going back to school next semester. 1
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