CharlotteX Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 So a week ago after 3 months of trying everything to get over my ex of 3.5 years with a 2.5 year old son, I suddenly just had this realisation off wtf am I doing he's going out with this "girl mate", drinking with his friends and all sorts he's happy he isn't thinking about me or missing me & thought what am I doing no charlotte get on with your life. I honestly aint looked back since I have been happier this week then I have in a very long time I don't think about him or cry. I'm excited about making my life better and what the future holds. If only I weren't having these stupid dreams every night about him. I wake up thinking about him and sometimes they feel so real like hes begging for me back or we just happy again, I have to remind myself that im moving on and manage to shake the feeling off but im scared they will really start bringing me down soon. Any tips on how to possibly deal with this??
headsashed Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 They are only dreams charlotte, they don't mean anything. I know they hurt sometimes and feel real but they will subside soon enough and then when you do dream about him it wont hurt. Im about 13 month post BU and I still have the occasional dream about my ex, it used to be every night and it would cripple me but now it doesn't hurt at all. From what ive read about dreaming about an ex, its your subconscious letting go of feelings, something along those lines anyway. Just don't let it bring you down, remember dreams are just dreams.
CorridorE Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I'm nearing 5 months post BU and the dreams used to be every night, but now they have pretty much stopped. With the exception of last night... which led me to waking up this morning in tears. But now I'm feeling all right again. You just have to wait them out until they stop or are rare, because that time comes eventually and hope for the time when they will no longer phase you. I still have an occational dream about an ex from almost six years ago who I no longer have any feelings for at all. Why he appears in my dreams once every few months, I'll never know. But it doesn't bother me anymore. They mean nothing, just dreams.
SweetiePie12 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 If only I weren't having these stupid dreams every night about him. Every night?! I dream about my ex, but only every few months. I wake up thinking about him and sometimes they feel so real like hes begging for me back I can relate! I usually don't remember the dream until a few hours or minutes after I awake. And he's soooooo sweet in the dream, almost like he's over-compensating for the way he treated me in real life. Any tips on how to possibly deal with this?? Well...every night? Really? That's for starters.
CorridorE Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Well...every night? Really? That's for starters. I had dreams about mine every night without much fail for over a month. Now, however, they're getting rare. OP, just wait it out. They'll go away eventually.
Sneaky Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I’m having a similar experience. Feels like such a cheap shot too, you do your best to get over it and move on; avoid all contact and try to keep busy to keep your mind off her and then you wake up in the middle of the night having a dream about something that causes your emotions to stir back up. It sucks.
Author CharlotteX Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 It's just strange because they have only started being every night since my mind frame has changed into not wanting him anymore. 1
headsashed Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 It's just strange because they have only started being every night since my mind frame has changed into not wanting him anymore. That's because conciousley you are letting go but your subconscious hasn't and that's why your dreaming about the ex. It happened to me once i started letting go, the dreams were literally every night, it was killing me but i rode it out and now i rarely dream about her, and when i do, it doesn't hurt. Chin up charlotte, they will stop soon, and if they don't then ill send you pics of myself and then you will dream about me haha, joking sweety. Keep ur chin up
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