Lolita_Sky Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Just over a week into us breaking up I discover his cellphone is disconnected. Something told me to call it, and it wasn't simply to talk to him or anything. Anyway I called it at an unkown number. Well when I called it said his phone had been temporarily disconnected. Well its been two days and its still off. This happened once before with his phone but he went and payed it later that day when I told him. Should I be concerned? The reason I ask is because one of the last things I text him is that if he gave me an STD (because he was cheating) that I was going to report him. I told him I know his name and his address and where he lives. He told me that he saw some growth on his Penis the very last time we had a conversation and actually had the gall to ask me if I had anything. The NERVE of him when HE was the one cheating! Now just barely a week later his phone has been disconnected and I have been having some issues vaginally. I am going to the doctor this week. I feel like now he knows he does have something and is trying to avoid being caught. I am starting to become scared. I don't deserve this I never did anything to this man to make him do this to me...
Art_Critic Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 prepaid phone and didn't recharge it, they took it offline by calling customer service, blocked, they didn't pay the phone bill. I'd guess it was they didn't pay the bill or recharge up the mins.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 prepaid phone and didn't recharge it, they took it offline by calling customer service, blocked, they didn't pay the phone bill. I'd guess it was they didn't pay the bill or recharge up the mins. I figured that's what it meant. He gets paid on Wednesdays so chances are he may not have the money to pay to get it turned back on. But I feel this is too much of a coincedence for it to randomly be disconnected. If he had it turned off it woukd say that the number is no longer in service. I think he just changed his number and doesn't want to be caught.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Does anyone have any advice on what I should do am really scared about this. Never experienced cheating or anything like that so I have no clue as to what I should do. Should I just drive by his place late one night to see if he still lives with his mom? What should I do?
eleve82 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Lolita, you need to go get a std test right away!! It really doesn't matter if your ex has dropped off the planet, died or gone to mars, he is irrelevant to you now --- take care of yourself first!!
Balzac Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Obvious question: this man was YOUR only sex partner? You seem convinced your STD was without question from him.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Obvious question: this man was YOUR only sex partner? You seem convinced your STD was without question from him.Before I got sexually involved with him I had no problems. It had been several months since my last sexual encounter. He has slept with other women while dating me. ALL of my past exes never cheated and all took steps to protect themself. He is the ONLY man I have dated where his sexual activity while with me is questionable. The simple fact that you are stating this is absurd. Anything you say after this will be ignored. I mean REALLY. That is the last thing I need to be hearing from someone who isn't a doctor.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Lolita, you need to go get a std test right away!! It really doesn't matter if your ex has dropped off the planet, died or gone to mars, he is irrelevant to you now --- take care of yourself first!! I am I scheduled an appointment for Wednesday. I just want to be sure the proper people can contact him and get this issue taken care of. If he's sleeping around with people and spreading it I have a duty to notify the proper authority to stop him. I don't understand how people can sleep around like this and not have a care about catching/spreading something. The scumbag is discusting!!
Ale khun Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 It sounds to me that you are looking for an excuse to stop by his house , since his phone it's disconnected and also to fight over the STD , I'm not saying that what he is doing its right but you are responsible for that std too for having unprotected sex , I'm sorry that you are having a bad time with that and I hope it's nothing that serious. You mentioned that you have some issues vaginally have you tried over the counter medicine like Monistat 1 ?? That can help you relive the burning or itching until you can be tested on Wednesday , I don't think it's a good idea to report him , what would you win with that ??
Author Lolita_Sky Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 It sounds to me that you are looking for an excuse to stop by his house , since his phone it's disconnected and also to fight over the STD , I'm not saying that what he is doing its right but you are responsible for that std too for having unprotected sex , I'm sorry that you are having a bad time with that and I hope it's nothing that serious. You mentioned that you have some issues vaginally have you tried over the counter medicine like Monistat 1 ?? That can help you relive the burning or itching until you can be tested on Wednesday , I don't think it's a good idea to report him , what would you win with that ?? No I don't want to interact with him what so ever. I was only saying should I just drive by to see if his car is parked in the drive way, basically indicating he still lives there. As for an STD I dunno if he actually gave me one. I will be going to get tested on Wednesday. As for unprotected sex I never said that we did have it. Why do people think condoms protect you from an STD 100% of the time? If it can't prevent you from getting pregnant 100% then I highly doubt it can protect you from an STD. All I'm saying is that when I text him saying I'd report him if he has given me an STD that I know his name, number and address...etc. I just find it a very strange coincedence that just a little over a week his phone is disconnected...for two days. Anyway I don't want to report him to get back at him. I would only report him so that the proper authority would contact him and let him know he needs to take treatment if there is an STD involved. It would weigh on my conscious knowing someone has an STD and could be spreading it to other people and I did nothing to try and stop it. That's all I want nothing to do with him, I don't want him back and I don'r want to argue.
forgetmenot75 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Hi Lolita, I feel your pain, and I'm sorry you've had to experience that. He seems a jerk, and you are right in feeling concerned about your health. Just go get tested, wait for the results, and speak with your doctor what are the next steps if you've caught something from him. Don't contact him again, it's obvious he doesn't want to be contacted again by you, so don't force things. Wait for the results, be patient. And please post whatever is the outcome here
Ale khun Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Well Lolita at the end the decision it's yours I wouldn't care if he lives there or not or if he moved to another city . But if going by his place makes you feel better then do it , I hope you didn't get any std from this guy . Good luck on Wednesday .
NJshore Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 STD's don't show up right away. They stay inside you and incubate which is why they always say wait 6 months and be tested. Sometimes std's take over a year. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Does anyone have any advice on what I should do am really scared about this. Never experienced cheating or anything like that so I have no clue as to what I should do. Should I just drive by his place late one night to see if he still lives with his mom? What should I do? You should do absolutely nothing whatsoever. You aren't his mother. 1
Author Lolita_Sky Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Hi Lolita, I feel your pain, and I'm sorry you've had to experience that. He seems a jerk, and you are right in feeling concerned about your health. Just go get tested, wait for the results, and speak with your doctor what are the next steps if you've caught something from him. Don't contact him again, it's obvious he doesn't want to be contacted again by you, so don't force things. Wait for the results, be patient. And please post whatever is the outcome here I don't want to contact him. I don't know how much I have to stress that. I want nothing to do with him. My point here is that he's running away. Why now all of a sudden woykd he change his number when he's never done it before? I believe he knows something and is trying to hide from it. I know this much I know his address and if they ask for I'll give it to them. I just don't want this man spreading a disease. I would want someone to tell me if they know someone I am sexually involved with was carrying an STD. I mean that's exactly how AIDS and other major diseases are spread. I won't stop by his house I agree there is no need for me to do that since I already have his address.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 You should do absolutely nothing whatsoever. You aren't his mother. I will do sonething if I come back positive for an STD. I will make sure the proper authority is contacted so he doesn't spread it to another innocent person.
Calcmag Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 You can do nothing to stop him from spreading it to 'another innocent person'. Get yourself tested as you plan to. There could be 300 reasons why his phone is off. Try to shift your focus off from him and what/why/who he's doing, and bring your emotional energy back to yourself.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 You can do nothing to stop him from spreading it to 'another innocent person'. Get yourself tested as you plan to. There could be 300 reasons why his phone is off. Try to shift your focus off from him and what/why/who he's doing, and bring your emotional energy back to yourself. Thank you. I'm not going to waste anymore energy on it. I'm just going to go in on Wednesday and see what happens. I may be overreacting for nothing. I get crazy paranoid and think all kinds of things whenever I get sick or my body is acting out of the norm. I just don't want it to be serious, and for some reason I thought of my ex. I am slowly getting over him and I wouldn't ever dream of taking him back either, he doesn't deserve me.
BC1980 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 I don't want to contact him. I don't know how much I have to stress that. I want nothing to do with him. But you did contact him. You called him from an unknown number, which I gather means he wouldn't answer if he knew it was you. Also, you are considering driving by his house. Look at those two actions objectively. It sounds like you might want revenge, which is a waste of time and energy. What are you hoping to accomplish by contacting him? Yes, STDs are supposed to be reported to the CDC, but that is not going to stop him from having sex again or force him to take treatment. Also, if you report that he gave you this STD, why would a doctor or anyone else believe you? For all they know, you are making this up. Are they going to arrest him, and force him to get tested? You can't just haul people in to get tested for STDs based on a statement by some else. You are not thinking clearly at all. Of course, it's wrong if he gave you an STD, but what can you do about it? I would want to get as far away from that person as possible. My advice would be to get tested and stay the hell away from this freak. 1
CC12 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 The reason I ask is because one of the last things I text him is that if he gave me an STD (because he was cheating) that I was going to report him. If he's sleeping around with people and spreading it I have a duty to notify the proper authority to stop him.You're not going to report him. There is no proper authority to report him to. It's not a crime to accidentally transmit an STD. If you somehow have concrete proof that he knowingly and intentionally gave you an STD, then gather some money together ($1000+ conservatively?) to pay a lawyer to take your case and then sue your ex. Anyway, to answer your original question: What does it mean if my exe's number has been disconnected? Not sure, but you did admit that you have been calling him from different numbers and also threatening retaliation, so I would think it's extremely possible that he just changed his number so you couldn't contact him anymore.
bluegreen Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Unless you suspect HIV U got nothing on him so there is no one to complain or report him there is a crude but true saying about this : after f.... there is no crying about it. Check yourself go on live and take it as lesson well learned and if all turns OK which I hope it will let us know
SweetiePie12 Posted June 14, 2013 Posted June 14, 2013 Should I just drive by his place late one night to see if he still lives with his mom? No, please don't! Sounds like you are calling him excessively. He tried to talk to you about a health matter, and you said he has some nerve to do so? He might be scared of you. I would be.
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