bluegreen Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 I wonder does he miss me even a little bit I said NC and he took my word for it for real but I wish I could know does he miss me even little bit.
drpepper1886 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 I wonder does he miss me even a little bit I said NC and he took my word for it for real but I wish I could know does he miss me even little bit. I told her I didn't want any contact nearly 9 months ago and she abides by it. Said happy birthday to me about 7 months in, but that's been it. Oh well, glad I haven't had any breadcrumbs.
Author KansasChica Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 Do you guys think that if we don't try and fight the breakup and if we, as dumpees, don't try and reach out, then that's giving the dumper the impression that we're okay with the breakup? I think this guy always felt that I didn't care about him enough, even though I told him that I really really liked him and missed him when I was away (maybe too late though).
inaya42 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 yes, not fighting for a relationship that has ended demonstrates that you accept the breakup and that you respect the other enough to believe his choice (he knows what he wants and has told you) and that you respect yourself enough not to pursue someone who has rejected you. now, with that said, if there is unfinished business or things that you would like to clear up, then do so. but do it in a friendly, non-pressuring way. i honesty think there is nothing wrong with knocking on the door once to make sure that it is, in fact, closed once emotions have settled down. at the same time, you should do this ONLY if the breakup was handled in a kind and respectful way. (if someone leaves in a nasty, harmful way and has since been ignoring you, then f*** him too...) i hope this helps. 1
drpepper1886 Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Do you guys think that if we don't try and fight the breakup and if we, as dumpees, don't try and reach out, then that's giving the dumper the impression that we're okay with the breakup? I think this guy always felt that I didn't care about him enough, even though I told him that I really really liked him and missed him when I was away (maybe too late though). To me, this doesn't matter. These sorts of things should have been addressed by the dumper prior to the breakup. No one is a mind reader. We of course should be okay with the break up (as much as we don't want it and it hurts) because we do not control the other person. As much as I wanted to fight for my RS, all the fighting needs to be done when you're in it, once one person ends it, your chance to fight is gone because they've already decided there is no fight worth having for it. 2
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