autumn2 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 So I've been dating this wonderful girl for a few weeks now, we are really going well I feel. We had our second official date on Saturday from 10:30am through to 11:30pm (zoo, mini-putt, tea at cafe at night, then walk in park nearing the end at night). In saying that, we met up just about every night this past week in the city for coffee or walks (our unofficial dates). We've kissed a few times now and made-out in the city park at a few times. Things are going great . We planned to make our next date on Friday. Great! She told me she had a uni exam on Wednesday, so I had planned to not contact her until Tuesday night, where I'd give her a call. However, she texted me tonight, so that's fine! I'll still call tomorrow night anyway. Now, the reason for this post.... She told me that she has about 6 close friends (girls and guys), that she regularly catches up with. Including a guy who was actually her boyfriend back in high-school, but they didn't work out and ended it after a month. They didn't speak for so many months, but became good friends again after a long time of not speaking. Anyway, he is to be getting married in Jan 2014, so I don't see that as really being problem (albeit, his marriage is arranged by parents, and he doesn't like the girl), but I trust the girl I'm dating quite a lot and just 'know' that it wouldn't be a problem. What I've been thinking about lately though, is that she has all of these friends, and I don't really have that many friends I can just call up and go out with. I'm a nice fellow, but just don't seem to make friends that easily. I see a lot of posts on here about looking at your date's friends.. As that says a lot about the person. I don't have many friends, although I know lots of people. And she has quite a few (haven't met her friends by the way). My question: Do you think this kind of unbalance with friends is ok? By the way, we are both non-partiers, 19years old, kind, and respectful people... We are both looking for long-term relationships that could lead perhaps to marriage.
MidwestUSA Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Why not try expanding your social circle through her friends? If things work about between the two of you, you'll be "adopting" them in the process. I wouldn't worry about others perceiving your lack of friends as a negative. Many people go through life without a large circle of friends. Keep an open mind, be yourself, socialize and don't overthink this. I doubt that she thinks anything of it.
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