turnerik Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 So i just randomly text my ex asking her if she wants to go to a baseball game. I expected her to ignore me, but she said she couldn't today and she was sorry. I felt good getting rejected! I was actually more happy that she responded. How lame is that? I'm sure you will tell me not to, but I'm going to ask her later this week if she wants to go to Chicago with me and she could bring a friend. (We live in Wisconsin) I will once again expect her to ignore me, although I can already see myself having hope, which isn't good!
Renard99 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 You're setting yourself up for a fall. Why would you stoke the fires of 'hope' when that's the one thing you should be trying to minimise? You should be letting go, not holding closer.
Author turnerik Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 I was just happy she rejected me, instead of ignoring me. She actually had plans, and said she was sorry she couldn't go. I'm going to try and convince myself she won't respond, and if she doesn't then oh well. I have to try and get this girl to see the new me, and she will never get to do that if I don't try and contact her. May I get rejected, yes, but I'm already feeling like crap, so I gotta try. It's been 3 months and I still love her the same!
Renard99 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 If you're happy to be rejected, why do it? You're just after attention from your ex and that's not healthy. Someone's more likely to miss you if you're not constantly around them. The best way to do that is to go No Contact. If she does miss you then great, you may have a second chance, if not then it doesn't matter because by that point she should be out of your life. I know this sounds harsh and i remember that it's not as easy as this having been there myself but.........why so you still love someone that doesn't want to be with you? If she was as great as you still think she is she would still be with you. You're trying to force someone's free will and, at best, you'll probably end up being her friend when secretly you still love her. You're setting up your own torture. You need to learn to let go.
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