StandOut Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 So I got back with my girlfriend of almost 4 years after being broken up for about 6-8 months. Right before we got together again we took a vacation together for a week in the carribean. The trip was great I felt like when we first started going out. A month and a half later she texts me one Sunday morning and tells me that she can't lead me on any more and that would just be friends or stop talking for a while. I was beyond pissed because she didn't even bother to tell me in person. So I told her I wasn't game and that if that's how she feels to never to call me again and to come get her belongings from my house. Mind you were not a couple yet but we've been trying to work things out for months. So I guess my reaction shocked her because that night she asked me to let's try to work things out again. I gave her a choice either we forget about each other and moving on or we be a couple again. She said let's be together. Everything was good for about a month. Now I feel like she doesn't feel the same about me. She hardly shows any a affection and have sex less and less frequently. I asked her if she still wants to be with me and she said of course that she is with me for a reason. But I don't feel right. What should I do. We see each other everyday. I sleep at her house or she sleeps at mine almost everyday but I don't think she's attracted to me any more.
TaraMaiden Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 What caused the initial break-up? have you worked together to overcome these issues, through counselling? If you don't work on the situation, then of course, things are always going to falter. You've 'tried' three times. Three strikes, and this should be out. End this, go No Contact and put the lid on it. You cannot rekindle interest, and I think your gut feeling is probably far more on target, in spite of her assurances. If things are settling into hum-drum already - it ain't gonna get better, bud.
Author StandOut Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 What caused the initial break-up? have you worked together to overcome these issues, through counselling? If you don't work on the situation, then of course, things are always going to falter. You've 'tried' three times. Three strikes, and this should be out. End this, go No Contact and put the lid on it. You cannot rekindle interest, and I think your gut feeling is probably far more on target, in spite of her assurances. If things are settling into hum-drum already - it ain't gonna get better, bud. I intiated a break because of her constant fighting and jealosuy but when I tried to end the break and talk things out she didn't want to right away she said I hurt her and we spent about 6 months messing around and "talking" till she sent me that that morning. I asked about to last week if she is certain she wants to be with me and still loves me and she said yes. Sometimes I text her "good morning beautiful" and all I get is a "Hi" or sometimes I don't text to see if she would and I get the same "hi" like if I'm just one her friends. Maybe I'm smuddering her idk
TaraMaiden Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 If you're not getting the feedback,and she is distancing herself - again - then it wouldn't matter what you do right now. She's resisting, and would do so either way. I really don't think this is going to work. Not unless you both invest time and effort in addressing the issues which seem to constantly and consistently raise their heads.
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