spookyteenwitch Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 So my ex and I broke up and NC actually worked and now we're back hanging out, dating and having sex exclusively but he doesn't want to label it and it hurts and its really frustrating me. Idk how to explain to him that labels are important to me. Or should they not be? Am I being childish and dramatic?
Treasa Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 So my ex and I broke up and NC actually worked and now we're back hanging out, dating and having sex exclusively but he doesn't want to label it and it hurts and its really frustrating me. Idk how to explain to him that labels are important to me. Or should they not be? Am I being childish and dramatic? Yes. Why do you want to be with someone who broke up with you, much less have "labels" applied to whatever you two are now? Move on and find someone who isn't going to dump you and then keep you confused.
Mrlonelyone Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 So my ex and I broke up and NC actually worked and now we're back hanging out, dating and having sex exclusively but he doesn't want to label it and it hurts and its really frustrating me. Idk how to explain to him that labels are important to me. Or should they not be? Am I being childish and dramatic? Do you Watch Dr. Phil? He tells people who come on his show that marriage is a piece of paper and changes nothing. He has seen all kinds of couples and that is what he has learned. Labels follow facts, date, have fun, be GF and BF then just try calling him your BF one day. About exclusivity, have you actually discussed it? If not then never ever assume it. Exclusivity is a promise separate and apart from dating. Dating is a process of learning who and what you like, not in and of itself a commitment.
Roadkill007 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Do you Watch Dr. Phil? Please don't tell me you take that guy seriously... I mean, he does say some good things, but he's such a tool. Plus, he uses "pop psychology", not REAL psychology. Ugh, I'm sorry, usually I don't get so nasty, but Dr. Phil is seriously a complete ass... and on OP, teenwitch, you need to determine if it's just the label that makes him feel stressed, or if he just doesn't want to be anything officially. The latter is pretty dangerous territory for you, as it gives him an excuse to jump ship if a better opportunity comes along.
Leigh 87 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Dr Phill has given free therapy to so many people who were desperately in need of it. Who would never have afford it. He may be an @ss in person, who knows. If I have nothing nice to say about someone, I generally feel happier if I do not say it at all. Unless it is about my idiot ex. Of course:lmao: As for the person who started this discussion: it depends how he came back, and what he said about it. He either came back because he realised he was crazy in love with you, and decided that he wanted to do whatever it took to make it work. OR, he came back because he is single, horny and has no better options out there.. Look. I am a romantic. Which is ironic, since I was once thought monogamy was boring and marriage was a death sentence. I do believe in second chances, but I think GENUINE second chances are extremely rare. I don't just think it, sorry: I KNOW it. True second chances are rare. Very rare. This is precisely WHY, if the man I am still madly in love with asks to get back together, I would seriously consider NOT. Even though I am hopeless for him, really, I would find it hard to believe it was because he was still in love with me and he was so desperate to make it work and do whatever it took. I think my own ex will get in contact with me one day, but it is way more likely that come back because they simply have not found anything better. You could even be someone that was really special to them, so no new people match up. Look. Very few dudes come back for the right reasons. It is probably because he enjoys you and he has nothing better going on. I am sad to say this. I hope I am wrong. The "labels" issue is a red flag, because if he was THAT hell bent on getting you back, surely he would do whatever it took?
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