serabrina Posted October 9, 2004 Posted October 9, 2004 My cousin is my best friend. Last weekend I spent the night with her ex-husband. He's been having a lot of problems, I've been having a rough time- and she invited both of us over to hang and chill at her house with her and her husband of 3 years. My cousin and I have talked about this and she's fine with all of it. I think I'd like to pursue a relationship with him, but I feel like I may have offended him by not staying at his place after we did the deed. I called him the day after (mainly to make sure he was okay, and that I didn't mess up his friendship with my cousin- he's the father of one of her kids, so I didn't want him to feel strange about seeing her because of me) and we spoke briefly- he claimed everything was good and that we'd talk more later and never called back. It's been a week, and I'm going crazy! I think I've been really "cool" about the whole thing, but I really want to call him again. Should I?
bluechocolate Posted October 9, 2004 Posted October 9, 2004 but I really want to call him again. Should I? If that is what you really want to do, then do it. I would say however that if was seriously interested in you most likely he would have called you by now. He's been having a lot of problems & you've been having a rough time - maybe you were both just looking for a little comfort wherever you could find it and maybe he is now thinking that it is not such a good idea to have a relationship with his ex-wife's best friend & cousin. Regardless what she tells you I'm willing to bet that she is not really THAT comfortable with the idea. I think you need to decide who is more important to you. Your cousin & her friendship or her ex-husband & the possibility of a relationship with him, because I'm sure that your relationship with your cousin will change once you start something with her ex. Ever heard the saying "don't sh*t where you eat?". I think it kinda applies here.
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