FrustratedGuy91 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 There is this girl I was FWB until she started gradually friendzoning me, she's is acting a bit odd... I'd like some opinions. Usually we'd go out once or twice a week, but for the past 10 days or so, I've been busy studying for my finals so I haven't seen her, obviously she talks to me on FB but I've noticed she has done something that caught my attention at least twice. She'll tell me to go out, BUT also with a friend of hers (Male). Something like: "X and I are going to a bar, wanna come along?". Being that I'm busy, and also thinking how to tell her I won't be friendzoned without messing it up, I politely decline. After that she won't go out. She won't tell me that, but she stays online playing Facebook games. This has happened at least twice. Is she trying to do something here? What do you people think?
shexy Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 If you're just FWB, what difference does it make? Isnt the whole idea of FWB that you can both do whatever the heck you want since there's no strings attached?
Author FrustratedGuy91 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 (edited) If you're just FWB, what difference does it make? Isnt the whole idea of FWB that you can both do whatever the heck you want since there's no strings attached? Yeah, but it's been a lot of friends and zero benefits later. As I said I'm thinking of a good way to speak of this with her, but I'm genuinely busy with finals. But my question is why would she do that, specially if we're FWB. Maybe I wasn't clear. She invites me to go with them, but since I don't go, she doesn't go out with her friend. Could it be that she's trying to make me jealous? Edited June 10, 2013 by FrustratedGuy91
leafguy Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 FWB is a very touchy subject. Given the fact is usually requires a physical attraction and some form of mental attraction to get into the subject, very rarely does it end without someone getting hurt. This sounds to me like she has feelings for you, misses you and is looking for an excuse to try and get you to see her...obviously trying jealousy to see where your feelings lie. The fact you have prioritized your finals and obviously haven't responded to her has her upset, which is why she likely stayed in. And I'm going to hypothesize the fact you are here asking her tactics means that you do care about her. I personally don't think you are being friendzoned at all, this sounds like the exact opposite. Bottom line is this is a communication issue. Finals are important, but I would take a bit of time to figure out what both of your intentions are and if your FWB should actually be a relationship. To me it kind of seems you both want it. Just my 2 cents. 1
Author FrustratedGuy91 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Indeed I do care for her, in fact our FWB started the opposite as you described. I was attracted to her personality, and I assume she was to mine, since I'm average looking. Anyway about the friendzone part, it's because there has been almost no physical contact for a while. We go out, have a good time and then nothing, I'm shy so I usually don't try anything, but the other night I tried the typical way we initiate contact with some tickling and a bit of playful fighting but she didn't respond as expected. I actually made a post on my current situation with her and what's on my mind, if you cared to read it and tell me what you think. I would appreciate it very much: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/399558-best-thing-do
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