Immissbitter Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I'm 22 years old & I can't seem to find a good man I've been with over 5 dudes within in the past 3 years who were the worst I couldn't bring any of them home to my parents I've had sex with all of them but its like they seem like potential when we meet but all give me false promises in **** I've never been on a date! They say they are taking me but I never go I always pay for **** I give out more than I recive I only get sex & lies I eventually get fed up & leave as soon as I leave they end up finding new women & they are getting treated like royalty this happens everytime is something rong with me why we I decide to leave they get jobs and there **** together I don't get it am I not worth it?!? Am I too vulnerable I just want love!!! It's sad I can't even focus on my studies or work cause I want that void filled in my heart ughhhh & the crazy thing is I mite be pregnant by one of those bums I'm slowly fallin apart
justwhoiam Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I've been with over 5 dudes within in the past 3 years who were the worst I couldn't bring any of them home to my parents I've had sex with all of them ... is something rong with me I mite be pregnant by one of those bums I'm slowly fallin apart Yes, are you sure you're 22? Because it looks like you're writing like a 15 year-old girl. Besides that, you could try not to have sex with any guys you go out with. It's a good way to rule out guys who might be after sex only. Get to know the guy first, and see if he's reliable and the kind of guy you would want every day in your life. Attraction should not be the only factor to consider. You can know if you're pregnant 8 days from conception. How long ago did you have sex?
USMCHokie Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 ...I've been with over 5 dudes within in the past 3 years who were the worst... Were they hot...?
Eggplant Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I give out more than I reciveStop giving more than you receive. Never give in anticipation of receiving. 1
Adele0908 Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 I am so sorry about what yo are going through. There is nothing wrong with you. The only problem is that you are looking to fill a void. You have to fill that void yourself. Stop looking for love and for a boyfriend, because you are only 22 and have many, many years ahead to meet a man and create a relationship. Stop focusing on a relationship and do some hobbies and focus on things that you enjoy doing. Be a kid again. Have fun. Enjoy life as if you were 7 years old. You will radiate happiness and men will be attracted to you like bees to honey. Work on loving yourself as if you were taking a class. Make it a priority. Do things that you are afraid of to raise your confidence. And stop dating men who are unemployed or who are penniless. Men don't feel good about themselves when they are broke or unemployed. And in their minds, any woman who would date them when they are broke or jobless is NOT a high-quality woman, unless she truly loves him and is not making demands on him for a relationship while he is struggling. 1
Adele0908 Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 How do you know? She's the common denominator here. I know she is the common denominator which is why I didn't blame the guys she dated. The only thing wrong with her is "ignorance"...and wanting to fill a void, which means she has low self esteem. But that is a lot of people. Most people actually. 1
deenalowens Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Listen to what everyone above is writing, and remember that there is nothing wrong with having someone wait to sleep with - if they're really invested, they will wait and get to know you more (and vice versa) and it'll seem less casual. If it feels off from the beginning, it's usually off and there is no reason to go against your gut. Most of all, don't give up or talk about giving up - you know there are plenty of people who meet the love of their life in their 20's, 30's and 40's AND beyond, right?
lakeshore678 Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 (edited) IMHO, First off, you need to take a deep breath. You might be pregnant? Find out for sure. Your hormones might be going crazy if you are, which would account for the catastrophic tone to your post. If you are pregnant, please don't leap into another situation grabbing whatever man you can, just to fill a void. You're going to have enough to deal with no matter what you do about the pregnancy. If you're not pregnant, get on some reliable birth control. No offense, but I'm pretty sure this isn't the best time or situation to be venturing into parenthood. And then I suggest taking a breather from the man hunt. People are really not born bum magnets. I think they get hurt, get desperate, grab whatever's available, then when it doesn't work out they repeat the same behavior. Concentrate on yourself for awhile. Say "no" a few times. Eventually, when you least expect it, the right guy will come along and you'll look back and ask "what was I thinking, letting them take advantage of me? I'm waaaay better than that." Edited June 27, 2013 by lakeshore678
lakeshore678 Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 And I should have added, Good luck to you. It really will be okay. I know it seems awful right now, but I promise life will get better.
SuperGeek Posted June 28, 2013 Posted June 28, 2013 Hey I'm 34 and I've already given up on love too. Join the club.
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