ToyStoryThree Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Hi guys, a little bit confused so I thought I'd post here and see if other people's opinions might make it a bit clearer maybe... Met a girl about a month ago now on a dating app (yeah, I know) and since then, we've been talking every day over the phone - a few times a day, actually. It started off as quite flirty, then she revealed she was still in love with her ex and told me it didn't matter because "we're FRIENDS, aren't we, FRIENDS!" - very much emphasising the word 'friend' which threw me a bit, but OK. I instantly switched to 'friend' mode and dropped all flirtiness. The day after that, I was at work and when I finished, I found a few missed calls from her. She was very angry that I hadn't answered her calls, and didn't talk to me for a whole day after that (lol?) - I thought this was a bit much, as she just told me she wanted to be friends, but OK. We've arranged to meet twice, and both times she's cancelled. We've never met. Since then, she often calls and says she misses me, loves falling asleep to my voice... I don't take any notice of this, tbh. I never say it back or anything. She tried to call me last night, and I was actually in the bathroom so couldn't answer. The minute I saw the missed call, I text her to ask if she was OK. Her reply was "don't talk to me" Today, I didn't contact her until the late evening when I asked her if she was OK - no reply. She was online on WhatsApp so I know I was being ignored. I then tried to call her (she was still online, so I knew she was there), and she didn't answer. I just typed 'lol' and left it at that. I've tried to make this post as clear as possible, but to be honest, even I am confused as to what's going on here. I've decided to delete her number as it all seems too game-playish for me, and I can't keep up. Anyone got any views on this?
shexy Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 She's playing games. She enjoys drama. She's hung up on her ex. I say cut her loose. 2
Author ToyStoryThree Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 She's playing games. She enjoys drama. She's hung up on her ex. I say cut her loose. I feel stupid coming on here asking for advice on something which seems so obvious as that's pretty what all my friends are saying - I just wanted unbiased opinions...cheers for replying. And I will
happykat Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I've tried to make this post as clear as possible, but to be honest, even I am confused as to what's going on here. I've decided to delete her number as it all seems too game-playish for me, and I can't keep up. Anyone got any views on this? Yes, delete her number. She's an attention seeking flake. Also, in the future don't waste time on anyone that cancels on you twice - that is just too inconsiderate. 2
Author ToyStoryThree Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Yes, delete her number. She's an attention seeking flake. Also, in the future don't waste time on anyone that cancels on you twice - that is just too inconsiderate. I know - I just felt her reasons for cancelling were valid, but perhaps not. Have deleted her number already - I agree that she's attention seeking, very much so. Thank you for replying, also.
Author ToyStoryThree Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Yeah dude, she's nuts. End it. Lol, yeahhh I have now - you guys pretty much confirmed what I already knew..
Lani Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Lol, yeahhh I have now - you guys pretty much confirmed what I already knew.. Good boy! And thank you for coming to LS, and actually taking people advice. It doesn't happen as often as it should. 1
Author ToyStoryThree Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Good boy! And thank you for coming to LS, and actually taking people advice. It doesn't happen as often as it should. Lol, yeah I know it doesn't....but yeahhh plenty of people out there, this one's a bit mad tbh 1
Leigh 87 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Good lord.... I stopped reading at the "she says that she loves to fall asleep to my voice" part:sick: Sorry, but that is highly inappropriate for two people that have not even met, and established a relationship in PERSON. And especially since you have only spoken to her for a short period of time. She sounds like she is in love with her ex and she is using other guys to placate her. It is not healthy what she is doing. ANY girl who is actually in love with en ex, which I unfortunately still am, SHOULD NOT date. It is SO wrong. She can be friends all she wants. Friends don't get angry if you don't call for a day, or fall asleep to the sound of your voice. She sounds crazy and she has no idea how to handle herself. She needs to get over her ex and be happy on her own before she bothers with online dating. 1
Author ToyStoryThree Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Good lord.... I stopped reading at the "she says that she loves to fall asleep to my voice" part:sick: Sorry, but that is highly inappropriate for two people that have not even met, and established a relationship in PERSON. And especially since you have only spoken to her for a short period of time. She sounds like she is in love with her ex and she is using other guys to placate her. It is not healthy what she is doing. ANY girl who is actually in love with en ex, which I unfortunately still am, SHOULD NOT date. It is SO wrong. She can be friends all she wants. Friends don't get angry if you don't call for a day, or fall asleep to the sound of your voice. She sounds crazy and she has no idea how to handle herself. She needs to get over her ex and be happy on her own before she bothers with online dating. Yes, you have hit the nail on the head, here. Her and the ex are in constant contact - she hasn't tried to hide that. The bit in bold - that's exactly right, I don't call my friends at midnight to tell them stuff like that! This is the first person I have really spoken to after a very difficult break up so perhaps I have let a bit too much slide but now, I think enough is enough. And I hope you work things out for yourself in regard to your ex, Leigh.
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