MidwestUSA Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 This is true, but I finally feel like I'm ready to experience a relationship again. I'm a hopeless romantic Libra. Finally over my ex, been single over a year, fixed my whole life up, created things for myself, can stand on my own two feet, and then this guy shows up out of no where! The timing was almost too perfect. But I guess the world won't end if it doesn't wind up working out. Just would be nice if it did. It does happen! Believe! Now, my wait was eight years, but worth it all. Best wishes to you, stay strong. 1
Treasa Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Yea, sad what a number the exes have done on us. I pulled out of it. Agree, just take it slow, enjoy yourself and life. The biggest thing I had to overcome was not immediately assigning an ulterior motive or alternate agenda to everyone I met. Of course, 85% of them had one, and it all traced back to numbers THEIR exes had done on THEM. Vicious, vicious cycle. I'm lucky in that only two guys in 30+ (going all the way back to the very first guy I kissed) actually treated me poorly, but I was with one of them for six years. Dear God, looking back, I dodged a huge bullet. 1
Author KatZee Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Yea, sad what a number the exes have done on us. I pulled out of it. Agree, just take it slow, enjoy yourself and life. The biggest thing I had to overcome was not immediately assigning an ulterior motive or alternate agenda to everyone I met. Of course, 85% of them had one, and it all traced back to numbers THEIR exes had done on THEM. Vicious, vicious cycle. Yeah I know. He suggested watching a show and I immediately went... "ARE YOU TRYING TO BE ALL UP IN THESE GOODIES?! GET OUTTA HERE I'M NOT A WHORE!" (I said that in my own head of course. Outward appearance is not that of a crazy person. ) I'm really not equipped to handle dating real, and authentic men. I have zero experience with them. This is the first run for me. :/
Author KatZee Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 I'm lucky in that only two guys in 30+ (going all the way back to the very first guy I kissed) actually treated me poorly, but I was with one of them for six years. Dear God, looking back, I dodged a huge bullet. You're lucky. I've had tons of winners in my dating life. It's about time I reap my karmic debt for dealing with s.hitty people for most of my life.
Keenly Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 And if he wanted to watch the finale with you? What would you have said .
MidwestUSA Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Yeah I know. He suggested watching a show and I immediately went... "ARE YOU TRYING TO BE ALL UP IN THESE GOODIES?! GET OUTTA HERE I'M NOT A WHORE!" (I said that in my own head of course. Outward appearance is not that of a crazy person. ) I'm really not equipped to handle dating real, and authentic men. I have zero experience with them. This is the first run for me. :/ They are rare; treat them as you want to be treated. I look back and realize the ones I thought were "normal" enough weren't. Married for 17 years to an illusion. Live and learn
Author KatZee Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 And if he wanted to watch the finale with you? What would you have said . I think I would have said, "Would you want to grab some dinner before hand and then come back for the finale?" It wouldn't have been, "come over now and spend hours at my place."
Treasa Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 And if he wanted to watch the finale with you? What would you have said . Blasphemy. GoT and wrestling are two things I don't watch with anyone unless I know them really well and know they won't make it annoying for me. I watch both with my best friend, who is almost exactly the same as me as far as reactions are concerned.
Author KatZee Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 They are rare; treat them as you want to be treated. I look back and realize the ones I thought were "normal" enough weren't. Married for 17 years to an illusion. Live and learn That's really crazy. It just makes me think, you know what, you never really know anyone. And that's so sad!
Author KatZee Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Blasphemy. GoT and wrestling are two things I don't watch with anyone unless I know them really well and know they won't make it annoying for me. I watch both with my best friend, who is almost exactly the same as me as far as reactions are concerned. Hahahaha yes, this guy has never seen one episode of GoT. He was actually like, "I wouldn't want to keep you from that show, must be great b/c tons of people love it. We'll hang next week. :)" My best friend and I watch the show together as well. We actually had dinner parties, cooked GoT's feasts from their cookbook. It was like a legit deal. Lmao. 1
Treasa Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 They are rare; treat them as you want to be treated. I look back and realize the ones I thought were "normal" enough weren't. Married for 17 years to an illusion. Live and learn Ha, and I didn't fully appreciate the really awesome man in my life for almost 14 years until I went through a bunch of idiots. I met my..whatever...when I was 22, and he's still in my life and extremely important. More than anyone except my mom and grandma. He "gets" me. It stopped being exciting 14 years ago, but now it's so wonderful that I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. I love being able to totally be myself, not have my emotions all over the place, and be able to have fun.
Sunshine87 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Hahahaha yes, this guy has never seen one episode of GoT. He was actually like, "I wouldn't want to keep you from that show, must be great b/c tons of people love it. We'll hang next week. :)" My best friend and I watch the show together as well. We actually had dinner parties, cooked GoT's feasts from their cookbook. It was like a legit deal. Lmao. He sounds nice. I like him already lol. Okay a bit of an exaggeration but he sounds decent and well mannered
Author KatZee Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Ha, and I didn't fully appreciate the really awesome man in my life for almost 14 years until I went through a bunch of idiots. Exactly. Who knows. Maybe it's my time, finally. Maybe he's the good guy to finally come along after dealing with such trash for my whole life. I actually love that he doesn't act like my ex at all. Nothing with him is an issue. He's working completely around my schedule, he's not offended if I say "no" he doesn't say things that come off passive aggressive or manipulative. He comes off genuine and nice. Not arrogant and cocky. He hasn't tried to kiss my a.ss the way my ex did from day 1. It's not like he's buttering me up for something down the line.
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