Jon Tenzo Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 (edited) I propose that we pull together a list of resources or general advice collectively to help our fellow members push ahead to give them some more confidence. Need to go a step further than the good old "Good Luck" "Hang in there" etc. Lord knows many of us have been in that place at some point or another in our lives, explain how you or someone you know got through it successfully. Some resources I have found helpful in getting over my own confidence issues have been the following: 1) Getting a new job or transferring companies. You are at work for most of your life. If you are not happy at work it will most certainly transfer to your personal life and reduce your ability to attract a suitable mate. If you are unemployed I advise picking up a technical skill such as programming and web development which can be learned free online through public sites such as YouTube with enough time and determination. Getting a valued skill and the ability to seek out clients on your own will give you a huge confidence boost and go a long way in making you look like a suitable partner. When I left my former company I became a lot more confident as there were simply a lot more resources at my new company for me to improve myself. Unfortunately sometimes you just have to move on, it's best for both you, your friends/family/loved ones and your employer! 2) Attack mental illness or grievances head on. For me getting over my depression initially required medication. Then I was able to get off the meds by addressing my nutritional deficiencies and diversifying my hobbies and changing the people I interacted with on the daily basis in my spare time. 3) If you are capable with no physical limitations or disability: Getting involved in a highly physical activity. Something to get your adrenaline and endorphin levels going. Alternatively social activity such as chess or strategy games requiring teamwork online are things that can get your confidence up. Often certain games players start out equal and gain specializations as they go along. (Unlike real life in which everyone starts out mostly unequal) Edited June 9, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 3
sillyanswer Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I am tired of seeing the multiple threads on how men and women on here have lost all hope in finding a mate or even interacting with the opposite sex. Some of those threads do get repetitive, both with the initial content and then with the advice given, so I can see where your idea of a resources thread comes from. Good luck with it! I do think, however, that lots of those individual threads start as either rants or as cries for attention, or both, so even the perfect repository of resources won't stop them.
SpiralOut Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I've done those last two, but not the first. I do worry that guys will feel turned off when they find out (pretty quickly, in fact) that I'm unhappy with my job. Oh well. I'll tackle that one someday...I will....Two out of three ain't bad.
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