Lucky rebel Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 Hey, I'm new here and am in need of a little guidance. It's a bit of an odd one really, and to be honest I'm not too sure how I feel or how to react. My ex and I broke up a couple of weeks ago after a bit of a rough patch. I gave him space, which was incredibly hard. A week after the break up, a mutual friend on Fb posted that my ex and his new girlfriend had been out with A group of friends. I was gutted, but went against my gut reaction and didn't say anything. A few days later I deleted him from my social networking, in case he posted anything about his new relationship. I just couldn't deal with seeing that. Yesterday he text me saying he had seen that I deleted him, and asked if we could stay friends. This has been something he had always said. That he wants to stay friends with his exes. I didn't reply, I didn't know what to say really. He then called me and I told him that I knew about his new relationship, and that whilst I respected his decision to move on, I wasn't comfortable about it and didn't want to see/hear about it yet. He started crying his eyes out, saying that all he ever wanted was me, that I should have been more open when we had been together. He cried for the entirety of our conversation. He didn't bring up us getting back together. He told me about this new girl...... Although I have no idea why. Told me he met her the night we split, and his friends told him to take her out. She is a friend of a friend. That she was really cool. He said it wasn't too serious, but could see it going that way. had planned to text me if it became serious. He ended our conversation so he could get ready for a date with her last night. I'm gutted now. Have been the whole time. But whilst I made my feelings clear, I did say I wanted him to be happy, and wished him good luck. Is this his rebound? He has a history of moving on quickly from girlfriends. But I'm genuinely baffled. He kept going on about keeping me in his life. Crying and saying that he misses me. I asked for no contact, as I am struggling. I think he will respect that. But what am I supposed to make of all this? Thanks for any help/advice you could give me.
LifeGoesOnMan Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 The dude has no respect and sounds like he is a little all over the place, do you want to be his backup plan? If so then by all means hang on, otherwise I would just go straight NC from here on in and try and move on.
Author Lucky rebel Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Hey, thanks for replying. A part of me wants to believe he is just a really nice guy who doesn't want anybody to not like/talk to him. But I can't help feel like he is just a bit cruel. When you mentioned "no respect" I felt you hit the nail on the head. Feeling a little better today. Hopefully that means I'm accepting it!
Giha Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 "Disrespect" is written all over your post. I'd go as far as blocking his number. If he planned to tell you if it gets serious he might really do it and you don't need him to be all in your face about it...don't allow him.
Author Lucky rebel Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Yeah I have blocked him on social networking and intend to block his number. Part of me wants to hear from him, but the bigger part wants to forget he existed. I don't want him to know how much this is affecting me, that I'm upset, because after everything, I don't want to have further regrets and vindicate his actions. In some ways I want to shout at him and call him on his behaviour. That he is cruel to want to keep me as a friend, that he wants me to see him happy with someone else. I want to vent at how much he has hurt me. Is this normal? He hasn't contacted me since Saturday. I am not intending to contact him. I don't think he will try to get in touch anyway. i specifically told him that i didn't want to hear from him again. If I'm honest I'm devastated that he has moved on, and so quickly, but it's his life and I can't let it get to me. I can't help wondering if this new girl is rebound or if it is serious, he seems very keen. I'm just torturing myself over it really.
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