MobileMan626 Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 My Ex girlfriend of 3 years agreed to have coffee with me next week . I was in NC with her for about 5 months until the other day when she initiated contact through text(Shes tried to contact me before but i've been swamped with work, I drive Big rigs across the U.S) Anyways, when i got a chance I initially just responded to her to see how she was doing and to let her know i was doing alright(She asked) but that quickly shifted to her calling me and us setting up a day to meet for coffee and catch up. I do still have feelings for her and the idea of us getting back together is very appealing. On the contrary, i have no expectations for this "Meet Up". I guess i'll just let it flow and follow her lead after all she's the one that ended things. So Let's say there's a 1 and a million chance she is warming up to me in hopes of reconciliation. I know she would voice it if she actually did want me back but she's always been an EXTREMELY shy person who's had issues with expressing herself. How should i approach this situation ? Is this something i should be excited about or should i stop wagging my tale and take it for what it is ? All insight is appreciated. Thank You,
CptSaveAho Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 tell her you're busy... you have a front row ticket to a flying pig show and you wont be able to attend
ASG Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Go for it, but don't be too excited about it. Chances are, it's really just a coffee catch up. You dated for 3 years and she probably cares about you and wants to know how you are doing, even if she has no intention of getting back together. If this is something you can deal with, then enjoy. Maybe you can have a civil relationship. If you are indeed hoping she will want to get back together, then maybe you should cancel, saying you're not ready? It's up to you, really, but don't get your hopes up, either way.
totallylost5040 Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Go for it, with an open mind. Don't mention anything about getting back together. If that happens, it'll happen slowly and carefully on both sides. Be cool, confident, have a game plan, don't sit there too long to talk, you should be the one ending the coffee meet up. Not her. You got stuff to do, you are a busy dude with things to do and people to meet. You're the man. You're awesome. Go with that approach :-)
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