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Completely shocked! Dumper did the most unexpected.....

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youngbutoldsoul Established Member

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My bf of 2 years dumped me two months ago b/c he wanted to be single and not deal with stresses of a relationship, claiming to be "exhausted" from arguing. A couple weeks after our breakup, I found out he's dating a new girl through some friends. I kept little contact with him and maintained indifferent attitude when we talk at home. We still live in the same bedroom in the same apartment (lease ends this month). I was gone the other night and came home in the morning to the most shocking scene...

 

I walk in my bedroom and find the new girl sitting in the bed. She introduces herself as the new gf and said my ex left to pick them up breakfast. I briefly said my name and left to shower and leave the house. I text my ex saying I would appreciate it if he didn't bring guests into our room.....he gave a half-ass apology and still brought her over the next, except they were in the dining room.

 

What the heck do I do?! I was having hopes he would try again with me and I am shocked the gentleman I fell in love with could be so disrespectful.....

aloneinaz Established Member

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Wow.. simply wow..

 

You need to find a friends couch to sleep on till you get a different place.

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adb22 Established Member

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Ew...just ew...

 

No respect whatsoever!

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TaraMaiden Established Member

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Wow.. simply wow...

 

You need to tell him that if he wants to phukk her, he do it in her bed - and tell him to go sleep on her couch until you both move out.

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youngbutoldsoul Established Member

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Wow.. simply wow...

 

You need to tell him that if he wants to phukk her, he do it in her bed - and tell him to go sleep on her couch until you both move out.

 

They used my pillows and blanket and left some of their clothes on my bed too. There was a cute animal pillow my ex bought me for my birthday and the new bitch was holding it in my ex's bed......this must be some joke.....

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Oh wow... unbelievable. I'm so sorry this happened to you, it sounds like a nightmare... I could relate so much to your first part but that morning incident! I just don't know how I would cope with such a thing... it speaks a lot of your strength for having been able to keep it together and take a dignified approach... I would've been so shocked and out of myself that I would've dragged myself down to their level by pulling that slut from her hair, kick her out of my apartment, throw his trash out the window and change the locks immediately, caring little for consequences, afterall the worst has already happened. They want humor... take it!

 

What a little piece of shiit that guy... talk about a horror story. Good riddance, that's all I can say.

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GG3 Established Member

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Wow. I don't know how you are standing it. I don't think I could have dealt with that.

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This is awful, I'm so sorry.

 

It does sound as though you had a lucky escape though. x

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I agree with the general sentiments in this thread... If this happened to me I definitely would have acted out in a totally irrational manner.

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TaraMaiden Established Member

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Isn't it a shame that we often think of the best reactions, at least an hour after the event?

 

I'm thinking...

 

"Oh hi. You're the new GF? Oh...Kay..... You know we're still sleeping together, right? In this bed?"

 

"Has he told you about his little 'rash'? it comes and goes...."

 

"Oh goodness! Who are you, again? I'm losing count now!"

 

"He's gone to get you breakfast? That's nice. He did that for me and got his regular drug fix at the same time...."

 

Grrrr! Not so much 'malice aforethought', as 'malice afterthought'!! :D

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"Oh goodness! Who are you, again? I'm losing count now!"

 

This would have been the best reaction ever. :laugh: I could only imagine the look on the girl's face after a response like this. :D

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The best follow up would then have been to look at the wrist-watch and say "Yeah, you have time for breakfast... the next one isn't due until 11.30...."

 

 

:D

 

:rolleyes:

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"I don't mean to be a total viper and this is probably inappropriate but, I'm.. in a treatment... he won't care because men just carry the virus. Anyway, you know, nevermind, just take care. I need to grab this sheet, sorry. Bye"

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inaya42 Established Member

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hideous mindeffery.

 

i had an ex pull something like this. on the day he told me he was leaving me, he had his new girl come to my home to help him pack and move out into her home. i asked her to wait outside and i told him to hurry up and get out. he continued to contact me every two weeks for months afterward. finally, i emailed her (cc'ing him) to ask her to keep her boyfriend away from me and told her that he was only with her because i refused to take him back ever. i have always felt a bit guilty about that -- she was simply a lovestruck foolish girl.

 

anyway, all this to say that your ex is clearly a monster douche, but also that these behaviors are designed to harm you. (my guess is that, because you were not a dying heap on the floor after the breakup, he wanted to up the ante.) he is very angry with you and very resentful and is attempting to punish you in the most painful way imaginable. i don't know how he feels about the new girl, but i would guess that neither of them has much respect for the other. and she is being used -- for sex and for psychologically torturing you. if he won't leave, you definitely should... goodness, feel better. this is just too awful.

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youngbutoldsoul Established Member

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Isn't it a shame that we often think of the best reactions, at least an hour after the event?

 

I'm thinking...

 

"Oh hi. You're the new GF? Oh...Kay..... You know we're still sleeping together, right? In this bed?"

 

"Has he told you about his little 'rash'? it comes and goes...."

 

"Oh goodness! Who are you, again? I'm losing count now!"

 

"He's gone to get you breakfast? That's nice. He did that for me and got his regular drug fix at the same time...."

 

Grrrr! Not so much 'malice aforethought', as 'malice afterthought'!! :D

 

I should have used one of these when she and I were alone. She was trembling as she was trying to introduce herself to me, probably realizing that she has no business to be in my bedroom.

 

You are all right....good riddance. I have lost all respect for that man.

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And you did not notified landlord WHY ?

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youngbutoldsoul Established Member

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And you did not notified landlord WHY ?

 

We're both on the lease together. She stayed over just one night so I didn't want to involve myself further with their drama.

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I know this post is so long ago...I have grown and changed very much but I'm having a moment of weakness....

 

I still miss him even after all this time and this had happened. What is wrong with me? I miss his gentle soul who used to love me.

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**** that idiot. He left you for someone else remember? Heartless prick even brang her into your bloody room so soon after. Your better off without him honey!!!

 

Well done with the no contact. Keep it up.

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Omg.

 

He is a creep. Good riddance. I don't know how you have kept this calm. I would have to physically remove myself to stop ripping both their sets of eyes out.

 

Unreal.

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youngbutoldsoul Established Member

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Omg.

 

He is a creep. Good riddance. I don't know how you have kept this calm. I would have to physically remove myself to stop ripping both their sets of eyes out.

 

Unreal.

 

I know it showed such disregard for me but I still miss the connection we shared.

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I know it showed such disregard for me but I still miss the connection we shared.

 

That connection isn't coming back. It's like the Sopranos -- it's over.

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I should have used one of these when she and I were alone. She was trembling as she was trying to introduce herself to me, probably realizing that she has no business to be in my bedroom.

 

You are all right....good riddance. I have lost all respect for that man.

 

Or "oh you're the new girl! My he found us quite a pretty one this time! If you give me half an hour to get showered up and ready, I'll bring the toys and oils for the wicked threesome after breakfast. I love it when he surprises me with girls in bed! It must be because it's our anniversary! I hope you like anal and animal role-play. He told you about the dog collar, right? The bowl is in the corner."

beach Established Member

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Move out now. Find a place you can move to today.

dreamingoftigers Established Member

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That connection isn't coming back. It's like the Sopranos -- it's over.

 

And the ending to the Sopranos sucked too...

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