rachel1215 Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I've been talking to this guy for over a year as he is one of my brother's friends and we have really good chemistry and he's flirted with me a lot. But he's leaving to another state in a few days for college and him and my brother have already had their heartfelt conversation about how they're going to miss each other and everything. But he didn't say anything to me. I feel so pathetic, I actually thought he would come over like he always does to hang out with my brother or something and then he'd see me and say this emotional goodbye but instead I got nothing and I'm really upset. He's even told my brother he liked me and they got into a fight about it afterwards so I'm really confused right now. What if I never see him again. I can't believe I thought he actually cared. Haha, how silly I was.
TaraMaiden Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 Have you stopped to consider that actually saying goodbye to you would be too painful for him? Especially as he 'fought' with your brother about how he feels about you.... How about YOU getting in touch with him to say goodbye? Why not?
Author rachel1215 Posted June 9, 2013 Author Posted June 9, 2013 Thanks, I actually never considered that. I think i'll ask him if he wants to hang out tomorrow.
Leigh 87 Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 In general, if a man is really into you, he will make it clear. Although he has to know YOU feel the same way first; not all men who are really interested in you will be brave enough to take the first step. If you suspect a dude is into you, and they are moving, all it takes is a simple "goodbye" text. If they are into you, they will respond. Or in this case, since your brother is involved, he may very well be interested in getting to know you better yet can't, since he does not want to risk the situation with your brother getting more hostile. I would leave it since your loyalty lies with your brother at this stage. In future though, remember that you have nothing to lose by initiating contact once if you are into a guy, and you want to check if he feels the same way. If he is not receptive then back off. You lose nothing from trying and could gain everything if he feels the same way.
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