mortensorchid Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I went out on an Internet date tonight. A good guy (like most are unless I find a real jerk worth mentioning here), but I didn't feel it. I did not lay it all out on the table, I stayed in the dark about things and neither asked the other very probing questions. Has anyone ever felt that lightening bolt I have heard about so much? That knowing that they have met The One? Or is that nostalgia talking? There is lust of course, that's different. Most of us experience that at some point or another, but we know that what we are feeling is just that. I felt that with my last bf, I knew I was experiencing lust and he did as well (he was an Alpha Male aka bad boy who radiated that something but at my age I know what that is). But when and where does that knowing strike? Or is it all just a fairy tale?
InsaneTrombone Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 Why'd you stay in the dark? I feel there is a 'lightning' bolt, sometimes it takes a little longer to see it. If you feel the same (no chemistry?) after a second date, call it quits IMO.
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I've experienced it twice now. As for knowing they are the one, I feel like you never really know until the day you die. But seeing them and getting that "holy eff , something is drawing me to you and from not even knowing you I feel like we are capable of something amazing and life changing"? Yep. One was with my ex husband, and with my now boyfriend. With my ex I was a child, 17, and it was a very intense relationship. With my now boyfriend? It was an unbeliever indescribable connect that hasn't wavered since, it has deepened and become this amazing love, not to mention that our relationship is everything I have ever wanted. With my man, it literally was a first sight lightning strike.
BluEyeL Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I might speak too early, but yes, I think I might have found someone and it's not a lightning bolt, but somehow, I just know it. It wasn't a "lightning bolt" first time we've met. That's the so called love at first sight. But i've had the date on Sat evening and now is 3.20am and can't sleep. That counts for something. 1
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