She's a slow texter, busy, or disinterested?

[InsaneTrombone]

Depending on how aggressively you want to move in on this I think you need to come up with a same day backup. As it is this woman seems elusive, you don't want to give her an excuse to keep stringing you along because of mother nature.

 

I'll be sure to consider it. She said she was free all week during the day/afternoon (she works very early mornings) when I spoke to her tonight. Still unsure if shes shy, nervous or elusive as you call it.

Edited June 10, 2013 by InsaneTrombone

[Star Gazer]

As it is this woman seems elusive, you don't want to give her an excuse to keep stringing you along because of mother nature.

 

Did you even bother to read the OP? If there's been any elusiveness or "stringing along" here, it's been carried out by the OP - NOT the girl.

[InsaneTrombone]

Did you even bother to read the OP? If there's been any elusiveness or "stringing along" here, it's been carried out by the OP - NOT the girl.

 

Haha I wasn't intentionally trying to string her along. I was simply being cautious and not trying to jump into something quickly. I typically prefer getting to know somebody slowly, but came to the realization we met on a dating site and she must get 90 messages a day, so I jumped in.

[InsaneTrombone]

Am I overthinking something here? I've only known her for a few days but each time we have spoken it's been me initiating the conversation, me sending the first text or phone call. We've got our first date coming this Wednesday but something small like this is slightly bothersome. Thoughts?

[Sunshine87]

Oh boy, I really don't know what to say because if she is the sort of girl who reads loveshack or other relationship forums, she might be adhering to the "rules" of the game- don't contact him first lol.

 

This is what most of the women on LS are advised to do and I find myself unconsciously doing it. But from your post, it is obvious that men want a woman to make some effort too. They don't want to feel like they are "chasing" a girl.

[InsaneTrombone]

Oh boy, I really don't know what to say because if she is the sort of girl who reads loveshack or other relationship forums, she might be adhering to the "rules" of the game- don't contact him first lol.

 

This is what most of the women on LS are advised to do and I find myself unconsciously doing it. But from your post, it is obvious that men want a woman to make some effort too. They don't want to feel like they are "chasing" a girl.

 

A little bit of effort both ways isn't a bad thing. At the very least it shows their remotely interested. I know we've got this thing planned so shes obviously interested, but from the day to day conversations we have, or lack thereof, you'd be curious yourself why she doesn't seem eager to reach out to you first.

[crude]

Oh boy, I really don't know what to say because if she is the sort of girl who reads loveshack or other relationship forums, she might be adhering to the "rules" of the game- don't contact him first lol.

 

This is what most of the women on LS are advised to do and I find myself unconsciously doing it. But from your post, it is obvious that men want a woman to make some effort too. They don't want to feel like they are "chasing" a girl.

 

 

Exactly. If men are so confident and such aggressive, powerful hunters, surely we should have the balls to tell the woman that we need her to do SOMETHING in the relationship or it's just a one-sided mirage. Women simply have to contribute in every way or it's obvious she's just going with the flow because she has nothing better to do atm and really isn't into the man.