Proto Posted October 9, 2004 Posted October 9, 2004 Ok... My new girlfriend and I have been going out for the last 2 months and things have been going great! It's a long-distance relationship but I've already met her once and am flying out to see her again next thursday. Anyways, I'm a big guy, and my girlfriend is a plus-sized girl and I think she's FREAKIN gorgeous! But unfortunately she doesn't feel the same way about herself and she doesn't even like to have sex with the lights on because she doesn't want me to see her naked. So my question to you females here is, how can I go about helping her to make her feel and KNOW that she's the sexiest thing out there? I'd love to buy her some really sexy lingerie that I KNOW would look hot on her but I don't want to add fuel to the fire if I do that, know what I mean? I want to make her feel like she really is sexy, not further grow her insecurities....any advice?
Adunaphel Posted October 9, 2004 Posted October 9, 2004 Keep telling her that you find her sexy and you love her and find her attractive exactly as she is. Make sure she knows you love her AND her body I think that buying her sexy lingerie is a great idea. You could go shopping for it together. Try to suggest that you make love to candlelight. It is not as threatening as artificial light or daylight to people who are not confortable with their looks. And when you are making love with a bit of light...compliment her a lot. If you sometimes look at porn when she is around (and she is confortable with you watching it), make sure to choose websites where are featured pretty ladies of the same size as her. If she usually feels not threatened by porn, seeing you look at girls who have the same kind of body as her might boost up her self-confidence. If you look at porn flicks together, choose one where the actress is a pretty but not slender woman. Be careful not oogling at girls who are very different from her in her presence. I really wish she could read your post and see what you wrote: I think she's FREAKIN gorgeous! !!!!!!!!!! So in case she might be thinking you tell her you find her beautiful only 'to make her feel better' she'd realize it is not so and you really think she is gorgeous! (I'm also sure she must be a very beautiful girl!)
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