hotpotato Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 This is actually a positive thread about relationships! Men, what can a woman do to make you feel admired? Is there anything a woman has done or said to you that made you feel especially good about yourself? 1
todreaminblue Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 This is actually a positive thread about relationships! Men, what can a woman do to make you feel admired? Is there anything a woman has done or said to you that made you feel especially good about yourself? you know i was thinking about this topic, when there was a men appreciation thread, where is the thread about what women do.....i was too afraid to post a women's appreciation thread as it would depress me if there were no replies.....or it turned into a women bashing thread...my heart would hurt..plus i kill threads..... this is sort of along those lines about what good women do......i hope you get many replies......i will be reading and hoping....thanks for posting..deb
hppr Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Guys like to be seen as strong and intelligent so comments that highlight that will make our day. Likewise the worst things you can say typically have to do with making a guy think he's dumb/weak or otherwise not needed. 1
ltjg45 Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 In all honestly, I really don't know. The only time I actually appreciate what a woman has told me is when she has actually gave me a job assignment that I'm actually good at. But, outside of that, my experiences with women is mostly neutral/business-related.
todreaminblue Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 (edited) as a women .... ...lol....like you cant tell by the name deb.....ill stand up and say..... men like everything we like....to feel admired appreciated and yep necessary part of our lives..... they like to laugh and appreciate it i feel when you can make them laugh even though they have had a crap day..... they like it when you make their fave meal for no reason at all they like it when you are affectionate but not hang on to their legs when they leave going "no the world is going to end if you leave" they secretly like the fact that you will miss them makes them feel desired and needed......without having to unattach you from their legs they like to talk about what they love and appreciate good conversation they appreciate it when you do something just for them they liek it when you make them feel like the only man in the room who rocks your boat they like neck massages they like any kind of massage wqhen they have sore muscles makes them feel...well ....better they like to feel useful even if you can do it yourself, sometimes they enjoy inputting men are great problem solvers given half a chance and they appreciate it when you give them that half a chance to solve a problem...... anything that makes us as women feel good...would most likely make a man feel good.... appreciating a man for who he is not just what he can do ......that would have to make them feel good wouldnt it...... also dont bring up stopping at a garage to ask for directions if lost....they never listen anyway.....and for some uncanny reason they get us there anyway albeit the scenic route.....2 hours late....just relax and enjoy the ride....makes them feel good... forget about the toliet seat being left up occasionally......only say it every other time......every second day never treat a man, as a woman, you wouldnt want or like a man to treat you........i think it goes for humanity in general.....deb Edited June 9, 2013 by todreaminblue 2
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 and i killed the thread..sad face inserted here.... going campaigning now.......see if i can find men who would be willing to state what women do that makes them feel good....deb
charlietheginger Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Men like genuine interest... Asking about our childhood early life Asking about our hobbies and interest Telling that shirt looks good on you Noticing our new haircut..... What we dont like is Beetchy Rude Hot n cold Drama queens Entitlement issues just be nice to be around and a guy will want to be around You... Play hard to get fussy beetchy he will leave you for the Next guy to deal with 1
daisybuchanan55 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I read a lot of relationship books and learning the types of compliments a guy likes has really improved my relationships with men! I disagree that women should just give the compliments they want themselves. Sure, they may be nice, but those are not THE compliments that really make a man's day. Women like to be listened to. They love when men will sit there and listen to them talk about their feelings. They feel loved when a man remembers little things she's mentioned, everything from important dates to her favorite flower or type of cookie. I love being told I'm beautiful in the morning, not just when I am dressed up. I love it when men brag about me, in front of me, to their friends. Overall, I'd say women love compliments that are feelings-based. Men are much more practical/logical. All the above compliments are good, but I've really had some seriously happy guys in my life when I've given the following compliments: 1. Asked them for help with something and then told them later they made a huge impact on the success of whatever I was doing/complimented them on how strong/capable they were. 2. Thanked them for dinner or something similar and then saying what a special, fantastic night I had. Guy LOVE doing things for women AS LONG AS THEY ARE APPRECIATED. If you keep praising the guy for things like getting your favorite coffee in the morning, you better believe he'll keep doing it! 3. Say in front of THEIR friends how smart/strong/whatever he is. Tell a story to illustrate the point. He will feel like a king in front of his friends. 4. Compliment their sexual prowess in any way. 5. Let them drive and tell them how good of a driver they are. 6. When they grill, tell them it's the best meat you've ever tasted. Then make lots of yummy side dishes to compliment their steak/chicken/whatever. 7. When he's had a hard day at work, have his favorite beer waiting in the fridge, pour it into a mug you've kept in the freezer and don't grill him about his day right away. Let him relax. Give him a massage. Don't feel like you have to launch into a giant conversation right away. Those are just some ideas I've had good luck with. 1
USMCHokie Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Each person has different "preferences" when it comes to ways to show them you love them. Read about Love Languages, and it will explain what I'm talking about. Some people respond well to verbal compliments, while others do not. It's figuring out exactly which "language(s)" your partner responds best to that is most important. Use the wrong language, and your partner will feel like you don't love them. 1
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Each person has different "preferences" when it comes to ways to show them you love them. Read about Love Languages, and it will explain what I'm talking about. Some people respond well to verbal compliments, while others do not. It's figuring out exactly which "language(s)" your partner responds best to that is most important. Use the wrong language, and your partner will feel like you don't love them. don't they call the language of love a universal one....often unspoken.......if you truly love someone it comes naturally..you know what they like because you know them well enough to love them in the first place....i agree with you though i think everyone is different all couples are different and unique in their likes and dislikes.............deb
USMCHokie Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 don't they call the language of love a universal one....often unspoken.......if you truly love someone it comes naturally..you know what they like because you know them well enough to love them in the first place....i agree with you though i think everyone is different all couples are different and unique in their likes and dislikes.............deb No, this is different. The five love languages, at least as described by the book, are words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, quality time, and gifts. They are simply ways to convey affection for another. 1
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 No, this is different. The five love languages, at least as described by the book, are words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, quality time, and gifts. They are simply ways to convey affection for another. who is the author.....and title please usm....deb
USMCHokie Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 who is the author.....and title please usm....deb The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, Gary Chapman. 1
Author hotpotato Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 I read a lot of relationship books and learning the types of compliments a guy likes has really improved my relationships with men! I disagree that women should just give the compliments they want themselves. Sure, they may be nice, but those are not THE compliments that really make a man's day. Women like to be listened to. They love when men will sit there and listen to them talk about their feelings. They feel loved when a man remembers little things she's mentioned, everything from important dates to her favorite flower or type of cookie. I love being told I'm beautiful in the morning, not just when I am dressed up. I love it when men brag about me, in front of me, to their friends. Overall, I'd say women love compliments that are feelings-based. Men are much more practical/logical. All the above compliments are good, but I've really had some seriously happy guys in my life when I've given the following compliments: 1. Asked them for help with something and then told them later they made a huge impact on the success of whatever I was doing/complimented them on how strong/capable they were. 2. Thanked them for dinner or something similar and then saying what a special, fantastic night I had. Guy LOVE doing things for women AS LONG AS THEY ARE APPRECIATED. If you keep praising the guy for things like getting your favorite coffee in the morning, you better believe he'll keep doing it! 3. Say in front of THEIR friends how smart/strong/whatever he is. Tell a story to illustrate the point. He will feel like a king in front of his friends. 4. Compliment their sexual prowess in any way. 5. Let them drive and tell them how good of a driver they are. 6. When they grill, tell them it's the best meat you've ever tasted. Then make lots of yummy side dishes to compliment their steak/chicken/whatever. 7. When he's had a hard day at work, have his favorite beer waiting in the fridge, pour it into a mug you've kept in the freezer and don't grill him about his day right away. Let him relax. Give him a massage. Don't feel like you have to launch into a giant conversation right away. Those are just some ideas I've had good luck with. Which books? Do tell.
Suave Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 We usually need to hear about how great we are, vain as it sounds. Women are much better at picking up the little things that show they are appreciated. You kind of need to spell it out for us.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Please don't think I'm manipulative, because really I'm not. I gain nothing by this other than a very happy husband and a harmonious and positive home life. He LOVES to be praised. He does a lot of work around here (we live on a big farm) and when he finishes something he really wants to show it off - and to be praised. Which he totally earned. He also likes me to listen and show interest when he tells me stuff about how he's going to make some kind of contraption, which I really can't follow but I DO express interest and pay attention. Even if I'm really not very interested in how he made that hose fit into this fitting and how he had to search and search at the hardware store. What I am interested in is that he knows he's appreciated and that I have plenty of time and energy to listen to him. General praise, like he is very handsome and a super hard worker, also engenders much beaming. I acknowledge and praise great things he does and is every day and it actually seems to reenergize him. Heck, it would probably reenergize me, too! He is much more of a receiver than a giver when it comes to the praising and compliments. But I don't thrive on it very much, myself. Also, he really LOVES it when I pack his lunch for him every day before he leaves for work. It means a lot to him that his wife makes his lunch! He's proud! I think that is endearing. I am a feminist! But I embrace a pretty traditional gender role in my marriage. I enjoy playing into his enjoyment of feeling like "the man." It suits me and him very well. 3
GoodOnPaper Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 3. Say in front of THEIR friends how smart/strong/whatever he is. Tell a story to illustrate the point. He will feel like a king in front of his friends. 4. Compliment their sexual prowess in any way. These are good. @ OP: If you can do so sincerely, throwing in the occasional compliment in an area that isn't your man's strong suit can mean a lot. For the guy who gets a lot of attention from women because he's "hot", compliment something about his character. For guys like me and others who are never thought of as "hot", compliment him about how you are physically drawn to him -- not because he's a 'good man' or 'smart' . . . A reason that will make him feel like the alpha male that you can see even if others don't.
carhill Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Men, what can a woman do to make you feel admired? Appear to be interested when I'm sharing parts of my life and occasionally ask questions like she wants to know more. Very rare to find consistently IME, in general, whether with romantic partners or friends. 1
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