Chi townD Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I'm calling her tonight... *** these kid games! Let's put true love to the test! I'll let you all know how it goes... thanks for the advice tho! Grabbing a lawn chair and a tub of popcorn. This should be interesting. 1
Author JLove13 Posted June 9, 2013 Author Posted June 9, 2013 Lol, you know what? There is a strong possibility that all of you are right... but there is also a possibility that you are wrong... the way I see it though? If its true love like I believe it to be, then a conversation to discuss where things went wrong between us should be enough to overcome our problems and move forward... we do have a lot of issues, but there is a lot that I need to explain to her... If after we have that conversation, her decision stands the same, then I will accept that what's done is done and I will let her go! If we can't resolve things like that, then why would I want to pursue her anyways? Why waste more of my life trying to become somebody suitable for her? If I did take that route... play hard to get, get into shape, get a new car and a new house, get a tan and some new cologna, and then 6 months later, I recatch her interest, would I ever be able to believe that her feelings for me were genuine? If she won't take me back at my worst, then she doesn't deserve me when I'm at my best! And I'm to old for these childish games anyway... I told her from the beginning that I don't play games like that... you want me? You got me! If you don't, then you lost me!
W.E Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 If I did take that route... play hard to get, get into shape, get a new car and a new house, get a tan and some new cologna, and then 6 months later, I recatch her interest, would I ever be able to believe that her feelings for me were genuine? If she won't take me back at my worst, then she doesn't deserve me when I'm at my best! Good luck with that.
lovelifexx Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I understand you. I believe that NC is the best way to go. I agree that having no contact can make you get over someone faster. I did NC for the first time. 5 months of it. But I couldnt get him out of my head. I kept wondering and analysing. I wanted so badly to tell him how I feel and get answers to my questions. Evetybody here will tell you not to do it, that it doesnt get you anywhere and you look pathetic and desperate. Finally, I wrote the letter and sent it. It didnt end well. But it was only after that letter that I have started to move on and the panic attacks stopped. I have gone NC again and will this time for good. We all work different ways. I dont know why we have to get almost hostile towards people on here if they dont deal with the break up like we think they should.
Author JLove13 Posted June 9, 2013 Author Posted June 9, 2013 Damn, thank all of you for the inspiration! I'm hoping for a miracle to prove you all wrong! So here's the deal... if I get her back, and I prove you all wrong, I want each and every one of you to go to church next week and listen with open ears! God will have a message to deliver you! That's why you all found this forum! Im Well, I guess well see... is that a deal?
TaraMaiden Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 No way. God is a fiction. I found this forum, because I trained in Counselling and was curious. I have no more a belief in God than you have in the tooth fairy. 2
Author JLove13 Posted June 9, 2013 Author Posted June 9, 2013 Then may you burn in hell! I hope you don't though, and you realize some day! Maybe that day is next Sunday?
TaraMaiden Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 Then may you burn in hell! Well, thanks for that..... I hope you don't though, and you realize some day! Maybe that day is next Sunday? You believe 'God' only speaks to people, in church, on Sunday? You don't thing he speaks to Jews on the Sabbath? Or maybe to his Muslim followers 5 times a day? Having spent 30+ years as Christian, I left that option behind ages ago. So I doubt if 'God' came knocking now, I'd be prepared to give him the time of day. Curious that you come to us for advice on whether contacting your ex- to get her back is a good idea, but you thank god for the results. Oh dear..... Christians are a funny bunch. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 And now religion is making an appearance. This should be fun. 3
bluegreen Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 : )))) its heart melting how he tries damn it I miss having that with someone !!!
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 No way. God is a fiction. I found this forum, because I trained in Counselling and was curious. I have no more a belief in God than you have in the tooth fairy. TaraMaiden, just when I though I could not possibly love you more! Lol 1
Author JLove13 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Alright ladies and gentlemen... unfortunately, the love of my life still remains as my ex-girlfriend... but you know what? I am proud of myself for never giving up on her and I gave this girl my all throughout our entire relationship... I treated her like an angel and I was never reciprocated for my efforts... constantly, I picture the good times that we shared together and constantly, I miss her presence... but I deserve better then her... and its women like her that turn men like me into animals... but I will not change because of her... and even though it still is not going to be easy to let her go for good, at least I know that I did everything that I could to keep her happy throughout our relationship, and I did everything that I could to keep her from leaving... what else can I do? I just have to live with the fact that no matter what I did, I wasnt good enough for her, and I have to accept the fact that we were not meant to be, and move on with my life... someday, I will meet a woman who deserves my efforts and who loves me for who I am, through the good times, and the bad... until then, I am going to focus on myself and pursue my goals and my dreams... one day, I will have all that I desire... thank you all for the advice though, and you should still go to church next Sunday!
TaraMaiden Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Sorry it didn't work out - but you know, even though we tried to advise you accordingly, you had to still try. So you found out for yourself, we were still right, after all. Fair enough. Now - you know. Church - ?! Nah. been there, done that, read the book, seen the movie, not my scene. Why don't you come to my Buddhist temple instead? See how the 'other side' lives?
Author JLove13 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 The hardest thing I have ever had to do, is let her go... but I hope she finds happiness... and I hope I do too...
Simon Phoenix Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Alright ladies and gentlemen... unfortunately, the love of my life still remains as my ex-girlfriend... but you know what? I am proud of myself for never giving up on her and I gave this girl my all throughout our entire relationship... I treated her like an angel and I was never reciprocated for my efforts... constantly, I picture the good times that we shared together and constantly, I miss her presence... but I deserve better then her... and its women like her that turn men like me into animals... but I will not change because of her... and even though it still is not going to be easy to let her go for good, at least I know that I did everything that I could to keep her happy throughout our relationship, and I did everything that I could to keep her from leaving... what else can I do? I just have to live with the fact that no matter what I did, I wasnt good enough for her, and I have to accept the fact that we were not meant to be, and move on with my life... someday, I will meet a woman who deserves my efforts and who loves me for who I am, through the good times, and the bad... until then, I am going to focus on myself and pursue my goals and my dreams... one day, I will have all that I desire... thank you all for the advice though, and you should still go to church next Sunday! Enough with the church stuff dude. It's cool if that helps you, but this isn't the place for such a thing. Don't be that guy. 1
TaraMaiden Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Enough with the church stuff dude. It's cool if that helps you, but this isn't the place for such a thing. Don't be that guy. I notice he hasn't taken up my invitation to come with me to the temple this weekend.... How wuuuuude.....!
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