JLove13 Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 So my girl broke up with me a month ago... I pursued her for 3 weeks but her decision didn't change... I texted her my final goodbye a week ago and told her I love her and what not... she never responded... then last night at midnight she texted me "you've been on my heart today, I hope your doing well"... I think she knows better then to say something like that to me, without me getting the impression that she might want to work things out... but I kept the conversationshort and said "you've been on my heart too" and that was that... any ideas on why she would say this to me? And where do I go from here? I was thinking about calling her tomorrow to try and work things out...
TaraMaiden Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 You broke No Contact. That was breadcrumbs from her, and you fell for it. Allow yourself that one mistake..... Read the No Contact Guide in my signature. It's the first post, but the remainder of the thread is essential reading too..... 2
Keenly Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 She thought "Oh my god where did my source of unending attention go?" 6
BC1980 Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 She might have felt guilty about ending it and decided to reach out to see how you were doing. It's really none of her business how you are doing, so no thanks. You don't need her feeling sorry for you. Unfortunately, these types of breadcrumbs are common, which is why you need to ask her not to contact you. In the end, breadcrumbs mean nothing. The relationship is still over. 1
aloneinaz Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Don't contact her again. I think she was playing games or got curious as to why you stopped chasing her around like a puppy. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 Don't contact her tomorrow, or next week, or next month. 2
Author JLove13 Posted June 9, 2013 Author Posted June 9, 2013 Her birthday is also coming up in 2 weeks... man, I really love this girl and just want her back... I just don't know the best way to make that happen right now...
robaday Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 This is what you do. Tell yourself immediately its over. Delete her number, email address, facebook, pictures, everything. And then stick on some sad songs and cry for a few days, confronting the fact its over. For a month or so, just confront it, accept it, feel the pain, dont contact her, just feel it. And then after that, start getting your "new" life together. Make a list of all the things youve always wanted to do, but havent. For me it was boxing, and learning a new language, and meeting new people. Look on Meetup site for groups in your area you are interested in and attend. Do more exercise or learn a new sport. This will keep you focussed and build your confidence. Work on new skills, become more adventurous in your choices - someone wants to sky dive, go with them.....after six months or so, youll be busy every night, exercising, studying, learning a new language, meeting up with new people and she will be a distant thought........ Around that point she will contact you and want you back. And you will look at your new life and back at her and say no. Just saying;) 2
Author JLove13 Posted June 9, 2013 Author Posted June 9, 2013 I'm calling her tonight... *** these kid games! Let's put true love to the test! I'll let you all know how it goes... thanks for the advice tho!
TaraMaiden Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 Man, you must just loooove those breadcrumbs!! Whatcha doin' ..... opening a Wiener schnitzel factory? She will just appease you with more of the same crap. Can't wait for the update.... 1
Giha Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I'm calling her tonight... *** these kid games! Let's put true love to the test! I'll let you all know how it goes... thanks for the advice tho! Trainwreck in 3...2...1... 1
bluegreen Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 Come on people give a guy a break we all did this : (( Yes she will hurt him again but that's pain enough 3
Simon Phoenix Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I'm calling her tonight... *** these kid games! Let's put true love to the test! I'll let you all know how it goes... thanks for the advice tho! Oh boy. This is going to be ugly. 1
bluegreen Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I hope not we really need some good news for change here 3
TaraMaiden Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I hope not we really need some good news for change here I think I might have a new, and better-paid job! 1
bluegreen Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 good for you : ) am glad to hear that but i meant some good news about this that someone responded finally the way we wanted
TaraMaiden Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 Yes. I know. I was being funny. This is not going to go well. And it won't be funny.
bluegreen Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 You know the insane thing is that few times I fought for it I managed to do it was not long lasting but still its like I bought more time. Who would not want that which one of us ? I wonder what's your story so you became this full of knowledge
TaraMaiden Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 it's 56 years long. It didn't come easy. But here I am. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 You know the insane thing is that few times I fought for it I managed to do it was not long lasting but still its like I bought more time. Who would not want that which one of us ? I wonder what's your story so you became this full of knowledge What's the point of that though? A few weeks and then you get dumped in an even more painful way. The heck with all that. 2
bluegreen Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 Well the point was love reason we all are here that was a point and no one builds anything hoping it will or expecting it will fall down right? By no means no one should lay down and have someone walk all over them but fighting to save what can be saved is another thing altogether and if it was not then at least there will be no regrets. That was my point
TaraMaiden Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 .... By no means no one should lay down and have someone walk all over them but fighting to save what can be saved is another thing altogether and if it was not then at least there will be no regrets. That was my point In Bold. That's the crux of it.... I pursued her for 3 weeks but her decision didn't change... I doubt anything has changed. And i doubt she has done a U-turn.
bluegreen Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I hope I explained myself well 3 weeks is long time
TaraMaiden Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 My point is - if he pursued her for 3 weeks - and it had no effect then - it's highly unlikely that anything he does now, will have any improved effect. It's sad, but it's a fact. The numerous threads on the subject of 'breaking No Contact' on this forum, are testimony to that. Hell, you only have to read the NC thread itself, to know it's a hiding to nothing....
Simon Phoenix Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 Well the point was love reason we all are here that was a point and no one builds anything hoping it will or expecting it will fall down right? By no means no one should lay down and have someone walk all over them but fighting to save what can be saved is another thing altogether and if it was not then at least there will be no regrets. That was my point But the result is s--t. So they take you back for a second out of pity and then dump you again? The heck with that. Waste of time for everyone involved.
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