Lady2163 Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 (1) Current length of relationahip with MM? 6 years 9 months (2) Do you say "I Love You"? No (3) Would you want a sole relationship? If he were single, I'd like to try (4) Why do you think the wifey either doesnt know about you or turns a blind eye? She doesn't know (5) Does he expect you to be absolutly faithful and date only him? No (6) Have you ever seen your MM & wife together in person or in a photograph? and how does that make you feel? Yes. Mild curiousity as I observe how they interact.
myname Posted August 12, 2013 Posted August 12, 2013 (1) Current length of relationahip with MM? 4 years 5 months - too long, I'm broken and don't want to continue but have nothing else and think I've carried on in the hope that I can make the bad situation good and have it all work out, I've invested so much that it's hard to give up even though it looks doomed. (2) Do you say "I Love You"? Yes, we both do. (3) Would you want a sole relationship? I would've done but I don't really believe it will ever happen anymore. (4) Why do you think the wifey either doesnt know about you or turns a blind eye? I've no idea, she found out many times and the impression he's given me is that she is still very suspicious so I don't know how they continue but they do (5) Does he expect you to be absolutly faithful and date only him? He has said he understands I might date as he's not available, but when I did he threw a massive fit about it and is now suspicious of me 'cheating' on him, ironic considering he's married and staying that way (6) Have you ever seen your MM & wife together in person or in a photograph? and how does that make you feel? Yes. I once saw them together from afar and was just scared they'd come closer, they didn't, I've also seen photos of them together and they looked pretty close to me which suggests what he says about the marriage is a total lie. Basically I feel duped and used, don't trust him anymore, don't know what to think and wish I'd never got involved cos where I am now is very painful and hard to get my life back on track.
Baby123 Posted August 13, 2013 Posted August 13, 2013 So, I'm still in my current relationship as a MM OW, and things have been evolving as relationships do, aside from that I have some Q&A for other OW, maybe provide insight for us all (1) Current length of relationahip with MM? (2) Do you say "I Love You"? (3) Would you want a sole relationship? (4) Why do you think the wifey either doesnt know about you or turns a blind eye? (5) Does he expect you to be absolutly faithful and date only him? (6) Have you ever seen your MM & wife together in person or in a photograph? and how does that make you feel? I'm struggling with these questions and I've been asking them myself alot lately, so I'm wondering if others are like mine, thanks in advance to all who provide any insight Open to all feedback 1) 10 months, 2 months of him living with her, 8 seperate but still feel like she's in the background. 2) Everyday 3) I have one? It's so hard though with the baggage. 4) she's so in love with him and their history/assets she can't let him go 5) yes, for about 2 weeks at the begginging he said I could date other people. 6) not in person but on fb, it hurts alot, I'm really bad with jealousy
anne1707 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 false.............. How would you know its false? Do you know Sweetie?
Hazyhead Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 So, I'm still in my current relationship as a MM OW, and things have been evolving as relationships do, aside from that I have some Q&A for other OW, maybe provide insight for us all (1) Current length of relationahip with MM? Affair was on and off for two years. We were apart for a year (ish - details are hazy now) and have been in a full relationship for a year now. (2) Do you say "I Love You"? Yes. Did do from four months into the A. (3) Would you want a sole relationship? i always did, yes. Even when I didn't admit it to myself and in those long periods of NC in which I got on with my life. He never truly left me. (4) Why do you think the wifey either doesnt know about you or turns a blind eye? his ex has been very vocal about it in the past. (5) Does he expect you to be absolutly faithful and date only him?when we were in the A... I don't know, it never came up so I guess not. I think he knew better than to be that hypocritical. Since being together we're very much absolutely faithful. (6) Have you ever seen your MM & wife together in person or in a photograph? and how does that make you feel? i've never really even seen them in a photograph together. I know that I'll see them physically in one another's space one day, as they have a child together, but I don't worry about him in that situation, only her hostility towards me. I'm struggling with these questions and I've been asking them myself alot lately, so I'm wondering if others are like mine, thanks in advance to all who provide any insight Open to all feedback I went through many periods of comparing my A to others and Loveshack offers that is abundance. What do you want though, Lilgirl, ultimately? That's where the real answers are.
wrinkledforhead Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 (1) Current length of relationahip with MM? (2) Do you say "I Love You"? (3) Would you want a sole relationship? (4) Why do you think the wifey either doesnt know about you or turns a blind eye? (5) Does he expect you to be absolutly faithful and date only him? (6) Have you ever seen your MM & wife together in person or in a photograph? and how does that make you feel? 1) 5 months. We've known each other for 8 months. 2) all the time, as any other couple who loves each other 3) yes, I do. We flirted with the idea of forever mistress early on but recognized further into the relationship the impossibility of duality for us. 4) she doesn't know of me. She knows something is wrong in their relationship. 5) of course. He is sexually monogamous with me as well. Shortly after our original meeting I was dating someone, but that relationship wouldn't have worked due to fundamental personality differences. 6) I've seen photos. At first it wasn't so hard but once we realized our love for each other it pained me to see them. He has taken her photo off the front screen of his phone. He checked the time one day after we had sex, I saw her photo, and I withdrew. He recognized how it pained me immediately and changed it. Since they don't live together he's also taken down some of the more prominent pictures of her that are around his house.
Author LilGirlandOW Posted August 29, 2013 Author Posted August 29, 2013 I went through many periods of comparing my A to others and Loveshack offers that is abundance. What do you want though, Lilgirl, ultimately? That's where the real answers are. I want to be happy as a cake eater with only one man to share my happiness with, and that man feel the same. I'm on an Affair peak as of lately its all very sweet and blissful.. I wanna stop worrying about the next valley. I wanna stop chasing the dragon.
Owl Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I want to be happy as a cake eater with only one man to share my happiness with, and that man feel the same. I'm on an Affair peak as of lately its all very sweet and blissful.. I wanna stop worrying about the next valley. I wanna stop chasing the dragon. OK...now for the REAL question. How are you going to get there? What's your plan to reach this 'goal'? I gotta admit, the only answer I can come up with is the one that the old farmer told the city boy asking for directions..."Well, son, you just can't GET there from here!". 1
bentleychic Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I love quotes. This one comes to mind for me. “If you want something you've never had, you must be willing to do something you've never done.” ― Thomas Jefferson Good luck, Lil.
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