mfleck91 Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Her birthday is a week from today. I've celebrated our last 4 birthdays together, big ones too, 18 to 21. I don't know how I'm going to handle it, knowing she is celebrating with another guy, that should be me. I don't know if I'll tell her happy birthday or not. And then my birthday is a month later. Gonna be a few rough days.
tinker683 Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 I know how you feel. My birthday is the end of this month. I'm hoping she doesn't remember, that she forget and the day passes uneventfully
Giha Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 No, no, no...don't text her or contact her by any other means...no good would come of it. 1
Author mfleck91 Posted June 8, 2013 Author Posted June 8, 2013 I wonder if for even half a second she'll think of me or wish I was there. God knows I want to say something to her but I know I shouldn't.
Hockeyguy19 Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Mine dumped me 2 weeks before mine, it was brutal, but my friends took me out the day of then got me drunk the following Saturday. Just remember it's your day, go out and have fun with some buddies, it'll take your mind off of things!
Giha Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I wonder if for even half a second she'll think of me or wish I was there. God knows I want to say something to her but I know I shouldn't. I know I'd feel the same in your situation (lucky for me both our birthdays are in March and mine comes first) My opinion is that she might notice, but she's with another man so she probably won't care too much. Either way it shouldn't make a difference to you, you know...it's not worth breaking NC over.
omit Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 mfleck91 do nothing, harsh as it sounds if she indeed is celebrating her birthday with another man. there is a chance that if you said happy birthday she might not even say thank you. My ex's birthday came and passed, situation was slightly different but similar. I didn't bother with a text or any thing. Once a break up happens the way in which people see each other often changes and there is no way of fixing that. You have to move forward mate plenty more fish in the sea!
SuperGeek Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 (edited) The brutal honest truth: She won't be thinking of you on her birthday. She'll be with another guy. Note the dual use of the word 'with' in the last sentence. I don't need to say anything else here, I'm sure you get it. Don't even think about contacting her unless you want to feel a lot of pain... more pain than you feel right now. On the day of her birthday, plan something with friends, family, anything. Make sure that your mind is kept busy on something else so that you can just let the time pass. Once the day passes, you'll be over it and you can move forward. Don't drink alcohol on this day if you think you might drunk dial her. Again, don't contact her. She's with another guy. No emails, texts, phone calls, facebook, twitter, google+, google searching her name, or instant messages. No telepathy either. No smoke signals! No Morse code transmissions. No magically showing up to where she might be. No driving by her house. No sending her gifts or flowers. No drunk phone calls. Nothing! GO NO CONTACT SuperGeek Edited June 9, 2013 by SuperGeek
Author mfleck91 Posted June 9, 2013 Author Posted June 9, 2013 The brutal honest truth: She won't be thinking of you on her birthday. She'll be with another guy. Note the dual use of the word 'with' in the last sentence. I don't need to say anything else here, I'm sure you get it. Don't even think about contacting her unless you want to feel a lot of pain... more pain than you feel right now. On the day of her birthday, plan something with friends, family, anything. Make sure that your mind is kept busy on something else so that you can just let the time pass. Once the day passes, you'll be over it and you can move forward. Don't drink alcohol on this day if you think you might drunk dial her. Again, don't contact her. She's with another guy. No emails, texts, phone calls, facebook, twitter, google+, google searching her name, or instant messages. No telepathy either. No smoke signals! No Morse code transmissions. No magically showing up to where she might be. No driving by her house. No sending her gifts or flowers. No drunk phone calls. Nothing! GO NO CONTACT SuperGeek Well I can't say that made me feel any better. I assume that the dual use of "with" you're referring to is sex. That would be especially painful since she was a virgin when we broke up
LifeGoesOnMan Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 I feel ya man but you gotta let it go, will also send a bigger message of you NOT texting her happy birthday then you actually doing so.. Think about yourself, not her, because she isn't thinking about you.(unfortunately) **** sucks I know man. I will be in the same boat in the next 2 months and our birthdays are close too.
Renard99 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 It's hard and harsh, but don't say, send, or do anything. My birthday was about 6 months after the breakup and my ex sent me an email saying 'Happy Birthday, hope you're having a great day' and, being as we always shared the same taste in music, she sent me some band recommendations. Being polite, I replied with a 'Thank you' and recommend some bands to her in return. Then, 4 months later, it was her birthday, so, not wishing to seem rude after she said happy birthday to me, I decided to send her a card that I saw and bought before we broke up and was intending to hold on to until her birthday. What did I get from her......... nothing. No reply, no thank you, nothing. I know I set myself up for it but I felt awful afterwards. Not necessarily from a breakup point of view, more from a 'being civil and polite' point of view, but it still messed with my head. Basically, don't do anything. There could be a whole load of scenarios and none are good. How will it affect you if you don't get a reply? What if you do get a reply? Thinking of her, could it be awkward for her in front of her new boyfriend. It could be awkward for the new boyfriend too. Best to be the bigger man and save everyone's potential embarrassment. You'll feel better for it :-)
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