scorpio1978 Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 Best advice I have seen on here in a long time. Good on you!
scorpio1978 Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 Hey man, I know it's rough. Right now you're trying to analyze her actions and words and it's all so confusing. But there's only one thing to understand in this situation as it currently stands and that is that she's done. After just 5 months she realized that she never really saw you in a romantic sense. I know that sucks. I was just seeing a girl for a few months and she broke up with me 30 some odd days ago. Been NC since that very phone call. She admitted that she had feelings for me and was attracted to me and yet it still didn't work for her. She knew that we both couldn't be just friends. Sounds confusing, right? Nope. Breakups always seem so hard to understand - but they're really not. If someone is pulling/running away from you they're letting you know in the most basic sense that they don't want to be with you. And most people - the dumper and the dumpee - end up covering up that simple thing with lots of excuses, fancy words or reasons, explanations, lies, or hope. In your case, there's no real use fighting for this one. And I understand. I'm a fighter too. I like to fix things. I give it my all. But you can't fight for someone who's backing away; all you end up doing is swinging at yourself. Spend your time fighting for those who want to be with you, not away from you. If you fight for her now, it'll upset her, push her further away and stall your own healing. From her point of view, this relationship is dead. Right now you're trying to drag it along, keep it going, but it's dead and it's beginning to stink up the place. It's now a ghost and it's gonna start haunting you both. Let it rest. Accept her decision - even if it hurts - and go NC. I'm doing the same thing myself. Today was my ex's bday. A small part of me so wanted to say something. But I didn't. Because I know better. This was meant for you, Antares: Best advice I have seen on here in a long time. Good on you! 1
totallylost5040 Posted June 9, 2013 Posted June 9, 2013 Here is what you do if you even want a shot.... Don't contact her in anyway..... Analyze what went wrong.... And do your own thing... Maybe she thought you were a friend because you didn't romance her enough, who knows. I am in the same boat you are. I haven't gotten her back. But I've been doing me and that's what will attract her or anyone other girl to you. After two weeks the girl I was seeing contacted me about some pics.... Word? I didn't respond right away an said ill give them to you when I have the chance. Not that it means anything but he asked all sort of questions on what I've been Doug blah blah trying to feed her ego. Point is. Don't be her bitch. Be a man. Assertive. Confident. An act like your life doesn't revolve around her. You think YOU are thinking too much? What happens when you totally put your ex on that level. She may start to wonder too. Not saying it'll happen. But making yourself better is the first step. Then figure out what you want to do when your head is clear of emotions. If you need to talk more you can exchange emails with me. 1
Bozena Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 How do I know? It's a law of nature. Like gravity. How do I know that if I let go of something I'm holding, it will drop to the ground? I know this because everytime I let go of it, it drops to the ground. How do I know your girlfriend isn't coming back? Because she's already gone. She's not going to come back unless you change your attitude. Once you completely move on, and completely stop caring, only then will you even have chance. And by then, you will be balls deep in some other girl who you like much better, so that you won't even give a **** that she's come back. That's the beauty of it. hahaha man you are so right. Why this always happening? The exes return when you have fully forgot them and move on with your life. You should be extremely lucky for this to work. I mean for some reason starting having feelings again for them. But even if you pretend that you don't care it doesn't happens. But when you actually don't care, then they are back
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