My 30 day NC challenge!!

[bornbroken]

Hi, I'm Jo from Manhattan....

 

So my ex and I broke up a couple of months ago.

 

I hurt her emotionally and tried my hardest to get her back. I was starting to succeed too until a few days ago...

 

I don't know what came over me but I just panicked for no reason at all. I lost all sense of self control and just started to beg for her back. I don't even know why as I had been so controlled up till this point and had played things perfectly.

 

Anyway she wont even talk to me now obviously and it's time to let go and repair myself. I have never gone more than a few days without contact, so now I am going to go a full 30 days nc to get myself back. Iv set myself some goals to achieve in the next 30 days:-

 

1. No contacting her in any way, shape or form

 

2. No replying to any contact from her (no chance of that happening!!)

 

3. No looking at her social media

 

4. No writing things on my social media to try and get a reaction

 

5. If I randomly see her, don't speak with her or contact her after

 

6. Accept that she is moving on, has a great new life and does not want me part of it. Great things will happen to her.

 

7. Accept that she does not love me anymore

 

8. Accept that she will be dating someone new, having great sex and will be happier with them

 

9. If I see people she knows,either avoid or refuse to talk to them about her

 

10. Block out thoughts of regret or how I should of handled things. I can't change the past and can only dictate the future

 

11. Get my life back...work, finances and hobbies

 

12. Have sex at least once

 

AND MOST IMPORTANTLY.....let go of false hope!!!!!

 

I want to be able to tick ever one of these boxes within the next 30 days.

 

I feel so low right now, probably the worst I have ever felt. I want to be ok again.

 

Thanks for listening.

[Giha]

13. Go another month of NC. Repeat when ticked.

 

Good luck to you mate. I suggest you also remove her from social media rather than just ignore it. Temptation is a killer.

 

Personally I've ticked most of the things you stated within this first month of NC. Still struggling with 10 though. You'll make great progress if you stick to it!

 

Also, start going to the gym if you aren't already. SUPER helpful.

[bornbroken]

Thanks!

 

Yeah I hope to be able to go nc forever....but I'm taking it one step at a time.

 

The first 30 days will be the hardest so that is the goal I have set myself initially.

 

Step 10 is my biggest one too...especially after the way I have acted. However I hope this is something I can combat.

 

I play a lot of Basketball...it helps a bit, but I'm still at the stage where she is always on my mind....

[youcanever]

I think number 8 is the hardest to take. How do you guys deal with it? If I deal with it, everything will be better for me.

 

8 is killing me.