Will we ever move past this??

[amkxoxo]

We've been dating for about three months, all well knowing he would be graduating college and would not be returning, where I would be. He would be returning home an hour from our school, and me home for the summer, two hours in the opposite direction (3 hours total). We had intense talks about our future and how we were going to handle things. I wanted a relationship, but he was "hesitant". He wanted to just see where things went, and he also said he wasn't saying no because he could change his mind any day, any month, etc... I let it go and we kept dating until the day came and we parted.( its been 3 weeks now) Days before he told me he was going to "miss you so much", and was "so glad i met you and got to know you". I was shocked when I mentioned spending some money because he told me to save it "to come visit *****" which is where he lives. I asked him if he was serious about me coming to his house and he said "how else will we go outfor drinks and relax in the hot tub". He even mentioned that in this day and age there are so many forms of communication so he wasn't worried. I had so much hope for us. Since leaving school he has called me a few times on the phone and we text back and forth, but the conversation is awkward and I feel I'm losing him. Since we aren't commited I am so insecure. I have told him I miss him on the phone and through text and he doesn't reciprocate. When I talk about making future visits, he either talks about how busy he is or just ignores it. It hurts me. I also feel bland. I ask him the same questions all the time. There are always awkward silences. This makes me miss being with him in person. He is under a lot of pressure because he is taking summer classes which are intense. He seems on edge a lot and I'm trying to be supportive. When I got sick he texted me everyday, many times a day to see how I was. With no hope of any future visits, and no affection, I am so sad all the time. I don't know what to do. I really want us to work. I don't talk about our future....I meant more like plans to see each other in the future. When I talk about him coming down to visit me in college in the fall or us going to the beach this summer. He will either not reply or say "yeah we could" He's never been a big planner, but I'm also not going to invite myself to his house. He knows I have the money and transportation to see him, he's the one that doesn't have it to see me. When I mentioned driving to his house he goes "Oh well its a far drive".

He was hesitant to commit because of the seperation. When we talked about it he kept saying "I didn't expect I would like you this much" he said it over and over again. He would always tell me how perfect I was. If I was so great and "perfect" then why not commit and try and make it work??

The conversation is bland. I ask about schoolwork and what he's been doing and its boring. We don't laugh and he doesn't make the conversation flow. I'm trying to be interested in his life.

Like at school I told him "I wasn't planning on seeing anybody else I hope you know that". I figured he would either agree or disagree. I wanted to gage his level of where we were at. All he said was "Well yeah, thats usually not a good thing to do when your trying to make it work with someone" sounds to me like your not going to either. Its all very confusing.Like i tried to call him the other day and he didnt answer his phone. He texted me hours later saying sorry i missed your call. So i told him that it was fine and if he wanted to call me now that'd be great. He told me he was too busy and a lot was going on in his house with schoolwork and stuff at home. So i tried to be there for him and told him it was okay and that he should call me when he has time. Hasn't called me yet. we've texted a little and he sent me a picture of something he made. He's been tweeting and doing music stuff online, but no time to give me a ring???? annoying. today I haven't contacted him at all. its hard cause all I wanna do is like his facebook statuses and call him, but I haven't. Figured I would let him miss me a little. He texted me this afternoon saying "hope you're having a good day" which is something I started doing at school when I wouldn't see him and he started texting it to me too. I haven't replied and its killing me. But I am trying to make him chase me a little. I'm so lost. any advice?

[kassy]

Sorry this is happening. But the relationship is over. Just end it and move on. You aren't getting anything good out of it now. And it will end soon enough, save yourself the extra heart ache and have a great summer without him.