Gingerlee Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Some of my ex's friends never liked me. I was painfully shy we we first started a relationship back when I was 16, and they thought I was boring and stuck up. I wasn't, I just had no self esteem or confidence. As that rose, I began talking to them. One of them called me fatty and the whole lot of them roared with laughter. I was crying so hard walking away and my ex couldn't even defend me. My ex dumped me in September for another girl after 3 years together. I wont go into that as its 03:34am where I am and im slightly drunk. Will probably regret posting this in the morning. We continued sleeping together, she found out, yada yada, haven't slept with him in a month, have low contact every now and then. for the most part, im fine, but i have relapses every now and then. I see his friends at nightclubs all the time. Three of them have tried it on. Constant flirting, grinding, rude texts etc but the minute any of their other mates come around they scram. I dont really speak to any of them at all anymore unless it's at the nightclub, and one of them recently tweeted me calling me fat and saying i loved cake. I never did anything to any of these boys to make them so horrible, and I truly loved my ex more than anything (still do, smh) and I just feel so low. If he hadnt have destroyed all my self worth and self esteem, they sure as hell broke what tiny shreds remain. I blocked and deleted the ones who tweeted me, but it doesn't stop them jeering on nights out. i was never anything but nice to them, i just don't get it. and I may not be the smallest girl in the world, but i am no way near the biggest, I'm not even that big, i just have a large bust and big hips. some of them get with girls a LOT bigger than me. I had an eating disorder when I was 13 which my ex knew about, which kinda makes it worse. I messaged my ex about the tweet and he told me there wasn't anything he could do. Then he sent me a rude text and tried to initiate sex but i told him no. I feel so worthless, I feel worse than I did when we broke up. I miss having someone who cared about me. I miss someone texting me making sure i got home alright. I cant even go out anymore without feeling so low, to the point where its not even worth it anymore.
Eddie Edirol Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Might want to try blocking the numbers of the guys that send rude texts to you, and go to a different night club where you know they wont be there.
Author Gingerlee Posted June 8, 2013 Author Posted June 8, 2013 one of them even has a girlfriend too, smh :/ and i can't really, it's the only decent nightclub in town! i've stopped going out so much now, its more a twice a month thing but my friends always convince me to go out then leave me on my own!
Leigh 87 Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 You sound so young. Listen, his friends are jerks. And so is he. They have girlfriends and hit on you at clubs? They are too immature and weak willed to keep it in their pants, that they resort to a chick they consider "fat" when they have girlfriends anyway? Seriously:sick: When people are young, no offence, you are all incredibly immature. Your brain has NOT developed entirely. The people you are NOW will be vastly different to the people you are when you are, say, 25. The thing with very young people in their mid to late teens, is: a lot of people on here are probably guilty of calling people fat or ugly, only to grow out of that phase. At your age DO NOT date seriously. It is a disaster waiting to happen. Boys at that age need to go out and have fun, have sex with girls, and mature enough to handle long term commitment. They are still horrible people though. MY parents taught me to not call people names. Obviously they lack any shred of decency, empathy, or kindness. I cannot see many of them growing into wonderful adults:sick: Look, you're young. Be fit and healthy, but eat crap 20% of the time, do you know what I mean? Accept your body the way and size it is. I too once had an eating disorder and I know how it is. I am 26 and have only just accepted my body the size it is. I am curvy and some guys probably think I am fat compared to stick figures but, honestly; it no longer perturbs me. PLEASE do not have anything to do with such low life's that call people fat? It is not only a sign of terrible character, but they are also too immature to know better. There is nothing about these dudes at your age, and in your area by the sounds of things, that are worthy of a relationship. Nothing. Please stay single until you mature more and are surrounded by mature and respectful men. If you love a guy or even like them a little, you want the guy to be kind and respectful of your feelings. They should stick up for you. They should not cheat on you. If they do not want to be with you, they should tell you in a mature and polite manner. God I don't miss being that young. 1
Eddie Edirol Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 one of them even has a girlfriend too, smh :/ and i can't really, it's the only decent nightclub in town! i've stopped going out so much now, its more a twice a month thing but my friends always convince me to go out then leave me on my own! In that case, the boys cant get to you if you ignore them, and look like youre having a good time with other people. They will quit after a while if they see that they dont effect you.
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