spiderowl Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 I'm wondering how many who had affairs found themselves in a position where the affair was discovered and where they were traced and contacted by the OW/OM? If so, what kind of contact took place? What did they say?
Praying4Peace Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Yeah, I spoke to both of them jointly at least 2-3 times. I spoke to her once after first Dday alone once. I don't even want to relive. Such BS (and that doesn't stand for betrayed spouse). The joint times- we were meeting for work purposes and then the subject mysteriously changed. Awkward, horrible, makes me want to vomit that I always protected him and our stupid A. Oh well! If you didn't experience this...be happy! There's no way to come out of it the 'good guy'. MM will always be the good guy in someone's eyes. 1
loredo21 Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 I'm confused but I think you are asking if the BS contacted you after dday? Yes, she called me first and I was in such shock I actually asked her to meet me in person! Then hung up. She texted me alllll day long demanding answers. I answered everything.the day after dday I contacted ExMOM and he was a big douchey coward, I was being very assertive trying to find answers, yes, but she then calle called me and told me to stop "harassing" her husband. HA! The way things are twisted is comical. Then she told me they were going to work on their marriage and whatever him and I had is over. I told her (quite snarky i admit) that i wished them te best and she said sarcastically that my support meant a lot to her. and that was that. never spoke to either one of them again. aside from some "creeping" (im only using that word becasue it is big on another thread right now) online from all of us, i never spoke to either of them again.
ComingInHot Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Loredo wrote, " I answered everything." That is awesome. My H's exOW emailed Me anonomously to tell me almost a year After he broke off the A. She was mean, cruel and only partially honest twited w/lies to which she admitted later. My only contact w/her was two emails asking for the truth w/out her cruelty. Then to tell her NOT to keep contacting me... ergo cease letter. I think your doing great even though You don't think so* I forget, did WS or BW or you ever contact your H?
loredo21 Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Loredo wrote, " I answered everything." That is awesome. My H's exOW emailed Me anonomously to tell me almost a year After he broke off the A. She was mean, cruel and only partially honest twited w/lies to which she admitted later. My only contact w/her was two emails asking for the truth w/out her cruelty. Then to tell her NOT to keep contacting me... ergo cease letter. I think your doing great even though You don't think so* I forget, did WS or BW or you ever contact your H? I immediately told H everything after she called me. I wasn't going to let him hear it from anyone but me. It was the worst day of my life. But I knew I had to do it. Thanks or your support. 1
lilmisscantbewrong Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 There wasn't any tracing or tracking down. We all knew each other very well. His wife discovered it first - had been reading our emails for 1 1/2 years most innocuous but this one she discovered he told me he had fallen in love with me and she found it in the delete folder. She confronted, he confessed, the three of us met and she didn't want anyone else to know. We continued for another four months - tried to remain platonic but couldn't - still both of them coming in and out of my home, going to dinner with them, attending church, etc. and then my husband discovered some poetry I had written and confronted me. He woke me up out of a sound sleep and I wasn't alert - I confessed. He went straight to his wife, told my girls, told one of the young pastors (who has since shown himself to be a complete a@@), talked to my xom on the phone (the only time I know of that that happened). Then they decided to announce our names in church as adulterers that very Sunday. It's a made for TV movie.
Author spiderowl Posted June 9, 2013 Author Posted June 9, 2013 Sounds tough. Sorry, obviously a painful time for all in many ways.
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