Crushedjustcrushed Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 (edited) I have a long breakup story that I'm currently working on. I may post it later in greater detail. Just found this forum last night about 2 am. I should have been on here years ago. The short of it is, BU happened last week (though, i guess in reality, it had been a few weeks before). I'll leave the details out, but months ago, I lent her some money. It wasn't much, not so much that I'd "need" it back. But enough that it wasn't 5 bucks. I mean if I didn't get it back, i'd never notice it, but she was always scrambling for $$, and I think to demand it back would be a nice little FU to her. At the time, we were all into the RS and I said, "if you want to pay me back, pay me back." Then I BU with her bc she never had any time to do things. I told her "I'm going to see other people, we are done." I didn't see this forum, or the NC stuff. I should have. She then kept "breadcrumbing" me a bit, in reverse I guess. Texts to me, that obviously were meant for her sister or daughter or whatever. And she'd routinely say, "i still owe you that money." I never said "Yeah, pay up." I just left it. Bc I guess I secretly wanted to get back together, even though I did the BU. So, this happens two different times. Each time she kind of worms her way back to me (and, I hadn't really found anyone else worth my time), and she says she'll change. Two times, didn't change. And after the second one, I noticed an even bigger change. Things were ok for a week or so, and then after a month of basically dodging me, she did the BU with me last week. And when it went down, she said she'd pay me back. And she has the money. I'm struggling a bit (with the BU, not $$-wise). And glad I found this forum last night. [Note: I'm wondering if she wormed her way back the 2nd time JUST so she could then do the BU with me. Maybe giving her too much credit, I dunno.] But, my point was, since it's been a week and no $$, I was GOING to just send a note and a stamped envelope saying "i'm sure you forgot" or something "stick money in here and mail," and be real short and professional. After reading this forum, that idea is now in the trashcan, thank god. Nice job. Glad I stopped myself. I was actually going to mail it today. NC all the way, baby. Edited June 8, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Move posting to its own thread
Author Crushedjustcrushed Posted June 8, 2013 Author Posted June 8, 2013 (edited) Oh, I see that my post got moved to its own thread... Anyway... Well, I haven't finished the tome that will be the whole story, but two things. One, another NC step finished. All the stuff I can find (texts, pics, etc) of our relationship are now on a flash drive. It will go in a little box of stuff I have, that I never really look at, where some of my past relationship stuff is. It's buried in the bottom of a dresser drawer. There is nothing on the pc, or the phone that relates to her or us. She's been blocked, and if a text gets through, i'll reply with the "Your message could not be delivered because the recipient has blocked this number." I guess today is a week NC plus one day. She actually texted me a week ago today, and I just ignored it. But my last contact to her, was a week ago last night. I guess I started NC before I even knew what it was. And two, I guess I'm moving on a bit with a date in a couple hours. No real high hopes, and I really don't want to just rebound with this girl tonight, but I'll give it a shot and see what happens. Edited June 8, 2013 by Crushedjustcrushed
Author Crushedjustcrushed Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 A little update. The date was a disaster. I met her online, and didn't see a full body shot. Now I know why. I'm not looking for barbie. But I'm not going to date someone that is 6 inches shorter than me and weighs 70 pounds more than me. She was nice, but..... I do have another date tomorrow at lunch. We'll see how it goes. I think this one is more attractive, but I don't thinks she's really into me. She might be just a bit out of my league. And, there's one lady I'm talking to at work. I've decided that if the date wednesday doesn't work, or the lady at work isn't interested, I'm shutting down the dating operation until after the summer. I'm going to re-dedicate it to myself and come labor day, I'm going to be a goddamned machine. Plus, I found some other stuff on my phone that I had forgot. Mainly texts that I never sent. I'd type a lot of stuff in the "notes" app on my iphone and then c/p it over into text, if it was going to be long. I have about 30 of those. All those are now on the thumb drive and off the pc and phone too. It was funny re-reading some of them from back in October/November when we first started dating. She could make me so mad. I probably had 10 or 12 messages I typed where _I _ was the one breaking up with her bc she was just impossible sometimes (but never sent them). I'll maybe post some of them here. I also discovered a few more pictures that need to be put on there, but I'll have to do them later.
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