na49 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 My girlfriend has blocked an ex of her's off the face of the earth but is still in contact with his family from time to time because they were childhood friends and she was close with his family. When she told me that the kid's mom was on facebook, I got really ticked off. She pulled the "You don't trust me" card on me to which I didn't have much of a defense. I told her I trusted her and asked her how she would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and I was in contact with an ex's family. I didn't give her any ultimatums. I do trust her, but how would you feel if your SO was contacting an ex's family? overreaction by me? or did I have a right for concern?
CarrieT Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 they were childhood friends and she was close with his family. ^^^ THIS ^^^ You are over-reacting. You want her to erase her past and not have any contact with anyone from her childhood?
drr6 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 If she has blocked the ex off the face of the earth, she has been done her part. FWIW, lots of people don't even do this. The ex's family is not guilty of anything. 1
Author na49 Posted June 7, 2013 Author Posted June 7, 2013 ^^^ THIS ^^^ You are over-reacting. You want her to erase her past and not have any contact with anyone from her childhood? I guess it was the idea of it being her ex that bugged me. You brought up a good point though, it's ridiculous for me to want her to have no contact with any childhood friends/family.
youngnlove89 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 I can see what it would make you upset. It would make me cautious. Ultimately, you have to just trust her. Because what else do you have without trust? 1
lamaga Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 I am in touch with some parents of my childhood friends. This really is not a red flag to me at all. I wouldn't even put it up for debate. 1
shexy Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 I wouldn't care if my bf (if I had one) was in touch with his ex's family. It's not a big deal
kassy Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 I find it weird you got upset. Even if she was Facebook friends with an ex I don't see the problem unless she gives you reason to believe there is one. Which she doesn't seem to have. If I was her I would see your reaction as a big red flag. Clearly you have issues with trusting her and are acting insecure, immature and controlling (maybe not always but in this case). Exes are exes for a reason.
starrynightz45 Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Everyone seems so non-chalant about this. Honestly I'd be annoyed. I see no reason for it. She should respect how you feel about it. Sure they were childhood friends, blah blah. But when you have an ex, things just change. That's life.
kassy Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 I'd say that Facebook and exes isn't the problem rather that people don't know when to end a relationship. I am sure that many of these people if they hadn't cheated with the ex on Facebook would have cheated with someone else. Deleting the ex is treating the symptom not the problem. And if you can't trust someone then don't date them.
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