Phantom888 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 I'm thinking my lady loves me. She wouldn't say it, but I can feel it, and I can read between the lines. Here are the signs: 1) She told her mom that she's really happy with me. 2) She told the parents at her daughter's school about me. 3) She told her best friends about me. 4) She told me she thinks about me all day, and I'm on her mind before she goes to bed, and when she wakes up. 5) This morning she texted me, and said, "I am falling so hard for you." To me, this is her way of implying that she loves me. I mean, how can you express all of the above if you don't love the other person??! I trust her, and assuming all honesty, shouldn't I take her words as "I Love You"? I can't interpret it any other way! Why can't she just say it????!!! I wish she would just say it so I can say it back and I'd feel so much better! Oh, in case you have not read my previous posts, we have been on 3 dates, and I told her I loved her on our 2nd date after we had sex. She was surprised, but was not turned off. I told her I don't throw my feelings around, and assured her that my words were not intended to pressure or rush her. It was my true honest feeling at the moment. Since then, I basically say "I Love You" to her pictures so she wouldn't hear it. I gotta express my feelings or I explode!
Treasa Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 You really, REALLY need to slow down. Everyone feels like this at first. Rushing will make things end badly. If you two are right for each other, you'll still be right for each other without racing to some finish line. Just relaaaaaax. You truly barely know her. 2
Author Phantom888 Posted June 7, 2013 Author Posted June 7, 2013 You really, REALLY need to slow down. Everyone feels like this at first. Rushing will make things end badly. If you two are right for each other, you'll still be right for each other without racing to some finish line. Just relaaaaaax. You truly barely know her. That is true. But do you slow down for the sake of slowing down, or do you slow down to get to know someone better? Can't a couple progress quickly and still get to know each other? I mean, I only get to see her every other weekend, so time isn't on our side. Isn't it better to establish a foundation early on so we can still enjoy the relationship when we are apart?
Treasa Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 That is true. But do you slow down for the sake of slowing down, or do you slow down to get to know someone better? Can't a couple progress quickly and still get to know each other? I mean, I only get to see her every other weekend, so time isn't on our side. Isn't it better to establish a foundation early on so we can still enjoy the relationship when we are apart? Whoa, whoa. I can almost feel your energy, and it's coming across as anxiety. Didn't you have an extremely expensive divorce? Slow down. Fine things are meant to be savored, not gulped. 3
KungFuJoe Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Yeah, phantom, do what Treasa said...you seem almost obsessed at this point. How many threads are you going to create on the subject? Sit back, relax, take a deep breath, enjoy the time you are having, and keep an open mind and heart. If it's meant to be, it will happen. But don't try to force it and definitely don't try to force feelings on someone else. 1
drr6 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 You must chill out. Overeagerness to win the affection and love of someone you just met is a bad look. It's like the dog that is going crazy and doing backflips as soon as he sees his master begging for a treat. Respect and admiration rarely follow from this.
Author Phantom888 Posted June 7, 2013 Author Posted June 7, 2013 I guess you are right. I am a bit anxious about this. She just seems so perfect for me, I just don't want to mess it up. I may be reading too much into this, and inadvertently forcing things. Don't want to go there. yes, my divorce was so expensive I am still recovering from it. I'm just gonna relax or I will end up not enjoying this. Thank you!
Treasa Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 yes, my divorce was so expensive I am still recovering from it. I think this is part of the problem. Everyone we start dating/liking seems amazing and perfect for us in the beginning. Everyone is on his/her best behavior. I'm sure your ex was amazing at first, too, even if you're jaded now and don't think so. Relax and take it easy and just enjoy it as it is, not as what you are trying to force it to be. 4
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