chief87 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 I've been talking to this girl for a little while. We both have admitted we like each other. Went out a few times. However, I get really frustrated with how she acts towards me. One minute, she won't leave me alone, the next minute it seems like she can't stand me. She's even kind of stood me up before... I got tired of it.. didn't really talk to her for a few weeks. Then, I was out of town she approached one of my friends and asked what was up. Was I seeing someone else? Why isn't he taking me out anymore? etc. The past weekend we meet up and talk about it.. reconcile. Talk about our feelings, how we like each other, and want to see more of each other. Even go to a movie on Sunday. Well, this week she regressed into her old habits.. Super short with me, never asks me questions when she talks. I wish she knew how frustrating this is and to be honest it's quite childish. I'm not a desperate guy and could find another girl if I wanted to, but I like her. How should I handle this? Back off/Date other people? I need some advice from people who have been where I'm at.
BluEyeL Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 It seems that your personalities are not compatible, although you like her, probably more physically like her than anything else. I'd move on and find someone that is easy to be with. 1
Fondue Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Hot/cold behavior = not interested. You said it yourself, you can find another girl. Go for it .
Author chief87 Posted June 7, 2013 Author Posted June 7, 2013 Her reason is that I never asked her ( not true) and didn't follow up and that she wants to see me. That I've waited around too long. This happened just last weekend. Hung out on Sunday, agreed to another date after. This week she's just been really short. We've known each other a long time and get along great.. I don't know what it is. I think I'm going to back off. No since being miserable
phineas Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Her reason is that I never asked her ( not true) and didn't follow up and that she wants to see me. That I've waited around too long. This happened just last weekend. Hung out on Sunday, agreed to another date after. This week she's just been really short. We've known each other a long time and get along great.. I don't know what it is. I think I'm going to back off. No since being miserable She acts one way but claims she isn't right after? Yeah. She has issues or she's playing games. Just walk away. Don't even bother explaining to her because she will just act like she doesn't know what you are talking about. I've dealt with women like this & the last one I swear legitimately was imbalanced. She said one thing, did another, then denied even doing it. See ya! 2
truth_seeker Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Her reason is that I never asked her ( not true) and didn't follow up and that she wants to see me. That I've waited around too long. This happened just last weekend. Hung out on Sunday, agreed to another date after. This week she's just been really short. We've known each other a long time and get along great.. I don't know what it is. I think I'm going to back off. No since being miserable I've dealt with girls like this. They're not gf material. They're play material. She's got 5-10 other guys phone numbers in her cell and goes with whomever she's into for that moment. You don't give her attention, she gets interested. Once she has your attention, she loses interest. See the pattern? She is unstable and will probably bounce from guy-to-guy the rest of her life. If you want to sleep with her, then do it but don't catch feelings. She is not worth the investment of giving her your heart. 1
SpiralOut Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 She probably got annoyed that you weren't chasing after her anymore.
Author chief87 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 Yeah I've kind of come to that conclusion too. Loves the attention, when I'm giving it to her. Then she doesn't give it back. When I get frustrated and quit pursuing, she flips out and all of the sudden needs me again. I give it to her, she regresses back. I'm 26, she's 22... I need a mature woman, not some child. I'm done with her sh*t
GB25 Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I went through this as well. We were sleeping together also. She was immature and young but damn it got frustrating. When we were together she was all over me literally wouldn't let me go but as soon as I left I wouldn't hear from her for days until I would cave and text her and the whole cycle started again. When I actually stopped she texted me she missed me and like an idiot I gave in and poof she was gone again. Really a big mind fck trying to figure out why this is happening but some girls are just like this. If no feelings are involved then it's all good but if you feel something then walk away bc it will drive u nuts analyzing.
stillafool Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I've dealt with girls like this. They're not gf material. They're play material. She's got 5-10 other guys phone numbers in her cell and goes with whomever she's into for that moment. You don't give her attention, she gets interested. Once she has your attention, she loses interest. See the pattern? She is unstable and will probably bounce from guy-to-guy the rest of her life. If you want to sleep with her, then do it but don't catch feelings. She is not worth the investment of giving her your heart. So true, yet these are the types of girls men always fall for. That's why these girls have 5-10 guys chasing them.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 It's called emotional intelligence and maturity. Some grirls just lack the EQ to pursue a stable relationship because they often have willing men pursue them and they lean more towards narcissism and personal emotional satisfaction.
truth_seeker Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 So true, yet these are the types of girls men always fall for. That's why these girls have 5-10 guys chasing them. Guys chase girls who are hot and have sex appeal. Once they bed them, and get it out of their system, they usually disappear.
Carenth Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Mind games = not interested. Pretty simple rule to live by. Waste of time and energy. 1
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