Should I stay or should I go?

[trx200sx2x4]

So here goes! I've been married for 15 years married young (too young?) Well it started out that she was good with helping around the house and was good with money. Well over the years I've found that she is a pack rat and I hate clutter that is just the start of the issues. So the next is that our intimate life is none existing unless I start it even Then I only have a 30% success rate and it is like having relations with a corpse :-(. So here is the major issue So we have 4 children and the 4th is 1 and 1/2 now (all the others are older and can manage them selves well). So she decided to stay home with her past what benefits covered and said that she was going to start a daycare and watch kids. Well after 9 months and hardly any effort she has 1-2 kids 2-3 days a week. So her income has been faltering. And I have had to pick-up the slack I'm working 2 jobs and 16 hours a day 6-7 days a week. She has had a few job offers that would have made things easier and helped out a lot but she felt offended because they offered her less then she was making before. So the other thing that really takes the cake is that now that she is home all the time that the house would be cleanish. Well I spend any of my free time cleaning, doing laundry and making meals....what the heck. So when I ask why the house is a disaster she says that she was busy (she has 2-3 hours every day at naptime) when I get home the dishes from dinner are on the stove or counter and she is on the computer or tablet or phone surfing the net for things to buy or whatever.

 

I'm feel like I have No respect or love for her anymore. Someone please help me figure this out!!!

[GuyInLimbo]

Sounds like you two need to go to MC. Jumping to divorce based on what you said, seems a bit premature.

 

4 kids? No wonder you're not getting any booty.

[tiredoftheheadgames]

Ya, he forgot to add the "other woman" part that he posted in another thread as well.