Korea2000 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Got divorced and remarried just over 3 years ago. At divorce there were few assets but I kept the house and agreed it would be split 50:50 in 10 years time (ex got other stuff in compensation and it's all even). House still in exwifes name as I couldn't get a loan yadda yadda Right, so my present wife moved in with me. All well and good first couple if years but now she's getting antsy over the fact that my ex lived in the house, sat on that chair, ate at that table, still owns the house. The truth is I can't afford a new home. It's hard enough keeping the one we've got, as I am holding down two jobs and working a 70 hour week!! I get home tired, disjointed, grumpy and burnt out. I barely make ends meet as it is. My wife hasn't found a job yet and I'm the sole provider for both of us. No kids. But I feel so disheartened working like this and then being told that she hates the house and what's on it. My tiredness in evenings is also causing problems. I do get irritable after being in the car for hours after a long day at work (one of my jobs is a long commute).
mammasita Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Two years and now she has a problem? Sounds like she's just looking for things to find wrong and complain about. How is your relationship otherwise?
Author Korea2000 Posted June 7, 2013 Author Posted June 7, 2013 Two years and now she has a problem? Sounds like she's just looking for things to find wrong and complain about. How is your relationship otherwise? She was never happy about living in the house from the get go, to be fair. But it's been getting worse of late. We love one another but my exhaustion in the evenings after work is affecting things. We need the $....
dichotomy Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 So you agreed to sell the home in 10 years, and split the profit with your wife? Why 10 years? (nice that your wife agreed to this arrangements). Can you sell earlier? Can you rent it out for now and move to another rental? Can you and your new wife try some redecorating (paint, pictures) or some new or used furniture? Maybe change which bedroom your sleeping in (if it was your ex-wife's bedroom) or similar changes to the function and flow of the home. Was the home chosen and decorated by your ex wife, i.e. do you consider it "her home"? or is there alot of you there?
Author Korea2000 Posted June 7, 2013 Author Posted June 7, 2013 So you agreed to sell the home in 10 years, and split the profit with your wife? Why 10 years? (nice that your wife agreed to this arrangements). Can you sell earlier? Can you rent it out for now and move to another rental? Can you and your new wife try some redecorating (paint, pictures) or some new or used furniture? Maybe change which bedroom your sleeping in (if it was your ex-wife's bedroom) or similar changes to the function and flow of the home. Was the home chosen and decorated by your ex wife, i.e. do you consider it "her home"? or is there alot of you there? I paid the deposit, paid the mortgage, she got $25K and we agreed to split house after 10 years to give me time to recover financially. Sure we've redecorated but there's still plenty to do. Furniture cost a fortune and I got to keep it. My wife is getting increasingly odd about the stuff and house though which after 3 years is a bit odd. But other than leading an apartment and paying dead money to landlords there's little option but to stay, reduce the mortgage and walk away after 7 years with some equity.
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