justwhoiam Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Shouldn't this belong to the LDR forum? I mean, if you need to take a plane to meet her... I don't know anything about you, but have you ever met her? Is she actually your girlfriend you go out with? Or some LD crush you talk to? It'd be completely different... Anyway, contact her via dating website with your own fake profile (be smart and don't use an email account she can associate to you). Find evidence it's really her. Ask some personal questions. When you are sure it's her and not some identity theft, bring up the subject while talking to her. Don't tell her you talked to her through the website. Don't do it or you might end up being the bad one. Fire questions after questions until she says the truth. Then ask her why she lied. At that point, anything can happen. She can just dump you or beg you to forgive her. Or you might break up with her or just pretend nothing happened.
BeholdtheMan Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 How would you bring this up to her delicately?Why would you want to go about this "delicately"? You're a man. Do yourself a favour by acting like one. She's supposed to be in a relationship with you. Why has she opened an online dating profile? This is a big deal. Please don't be a coward. Confront her directly. She should be the one squirming, not you.
Author StringsAndSticks Posted June 11, 2013 Author Posted June 11, 2013 Not sure what to believe with this thread, but any chick that creates a dating profile on a site when she is in a "relationship" needs to be kicked to the curb. As far as you saying it is not your "place to end it." Then whose place is it. It surely isn't hers if shes screwing around like this. Again, why wait for her to end if if you have that evidence. Does it make sense to talk to her about it? Id say yes it does, but if her profile says single seeking partner, you have the writing on the wall already. Show some balls and tell her to f*ck off. Ive been a victim of being trampled on before, and its not fun. This is a classic case of a guy thinking he has done something wrong to make a girl unhappy. Truth is in my case too, I thought the same thing and it wasn't until it was over that I realized how good I was too her and that she was just a manipulative b*tch. Stick up for yourself if all this is true and go out with a little self worth and end it. Well leafguy, I say it's not my place to end it, because, I'm the guy. It's her decision to end things if she wants, since she is the girl. I don't think I could ever tell her to "f*ck off." Shouldn't this belong to the LDR forum? I mean, if you need to take a plane to meet her... I don't know anything about you, but have you ever met her? Is she actually your girlfriend you go out with? Or some LD crush you talk to? It'd be completely different... Anyway, contact her via dating website with your own fake profile (be smart and don't use an email account she can associate to you). Find evidence it's really her. Ask some personal questions. When you are sure it's her and not some identity theft, bring up the subject while talking to her. Don't tell her you talked to her through the website. Don't do it or you might end up being the bad one. Fire questions after questions until she says the truth. Then ask her why she lied. At that point, anything can happen. She can just dump you or beg you to forgive her. Or you might break up with her or just pretend nothing happened. Justwhoiam, I'm sorry if I may have put this in the wrong place. Yes, I have met her quite a few times, we've been together for a little more than 2 years. Again, this whole thing about contacting her on the website using a fake profile, just seems too sleazy to me. Why would you want to go about this "delicately"? You're a man. Do yourself a favour by acting like one. She's supposed to be in a relationship with you. Why has she opened an online dating profile? This is a big deal. Please don't be a coward. Confront her directly. She should be the one squirming, not you. BeholdtheMan, I don't see how I am or am not acting like a guy. I don't know why she made the profile, maybe she wants something better than me. I just wish she would just come out and tell me she wanted to do this. So, what I've gathered from the responses here (which I thank you all for), it's either be sneaky and deceitful, or confront her directly. Isn't there some happy medium in between those two choices that wouldn't cause such a stir?
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