paint01 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Broke up 3 1/2 months ago after almost 4 years together. Ended with her cheating, me snooping to find out, she found a new boyfriend (different from the guy she cheated with) the same day we broke up. I moved out of our apartment and he moved in a few weeks later. Went 2 months NC, but had to get in touch to settle some details about the lease ending this month. I picked up the last of my things two days ago and feel like I've backtracked a bit. Her body language was flirtatious and I only said 2 sentences to her, looked her in the eye once. Grabbed my stuff, went outside to sort it. She followed me out a few minutes later asking, "Is there anything else?" in a way that implied she wanted to talk. I said, "No" and walked away while she stood there. I didn't look back. Hurt more than I thought it would. It was a pretty nasty break up but I still find myself thinking about her more than I would like. Still thoughts of reconciliation, bargaining, etc... Don't know why. Just wanted to write this out. Thanks!
escafeld Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Broke up 3 1/2 months ago after almost 4 years together. Ended with her cheating, me snooping to find out, she found a new boyfriend (different from the guy she cheated with) the same day we broke up. I moved out of our apartment and he moved in a few weeks later. Went 2 months NC, but had to get in touch to settle some details about the lease ending this month. I picked up the last of my things two days ago and feel like I've backtracked a bit. Her body language was flirtatious and I only said 2 sentences to her, looked her in the eye once. Grabbed my stuff, went outside to sort it. She followed me out a few minutes later asking, "Is there anything else?" in a way that implied she wanted to talk. I said, "No" and walked away while she stood there. I didn't look back. Hurt more than I thought it would. It was a pretty nasty break up but I still find myself thinking about her more than I would like. Still thoughts of reconciliation, bargaining, etc... Don't know why. Just wanted to write this out. Thanks! You did absolutely the right thing paint01, well done. It's natural to be still thinking about her after such a long relationship, don't beat yourself up about it..just keep focussing on the crappy aspects of her behaviour rather than the good times you had together..you'll soon find yourself smiling about your lucky escape!
Jono85 Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 yeah man, you should be really proud of the way you handled that. after 4 years, to end like that (as bad as it possibly can..), it's going to probably take a lot of time to get over. but at the end of the day, you decide your value and what you will stand for. very few ppl can be as strong as that; use that to build on. it might take a lot of time before you find someone else, but at the end of the day your pride is fully intact. she threw away 4 years pretty damn easily, don't look back bud.
Author paint01 Posted June 14, 2013 Author Posted June 14, 2013 Thanks, guys. The breakup wasn't quite as smooth on my part as I would've liked it to be, but it could've been worse. It was a big revelation when I realized that she would've taken satisfaction in me destroying myself for her. Luckily, I have good support from friends and family. Reading this forum has helped a lot too. She has contacted me a few times with weird apologies and angry emails. I have ignored all of them and will continue to do so. It's still a roller coaster, but when the lease is up at the end of the month, I will be totally done with her. That will feel gooood!!! Thanks again for the kind words!
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