od404 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Hello. This is my first post here, wish it was under better circumstances. Where to start. Im 32yo and my wife of just over 18 months is 30yo. We have been together for 7 years and have been relativity happy, or so i thought. Just over 3 months ago we went on holiday to New York, somewhere we have both always wanted to go. The first week was all good, but then on the sat night, we went out for a drink and maybe had a little too much. We started arguing about something silly, i cant even remember what now.. Anyways, it got rather heated and she ended up storming off, i phoned her but she didn't answer. I stayed at the bar for a while before heading back to our hotel thinking she my be there, she wasn't. I tried phoning her a few more times but she didn't pick up. Time was now getting late and i tried to stay awake but I must have nodded off and the next thing i remember is being awoken by her at 4am trying to sneak into the hotel room. She seemed ok, but understandably didnt want me touching her, or even talking to her for that matter and just when to sleep. Next morning it was very frosty, but she seemed to perk up as the day went on. The remaining week passed without incident, but she was very distant from me and we only had sex once, right at the end of the week before we went home. Its been 3 weeks since we got back, and last weekend i made a truly shocking discovery. While tidying up in the bedroom, i found a memory stick I'd never seen before hidden at the back of one of the draws. At first i didn't think much of it, but something kept telling me i should have a look on it. In some ways, i wish i didn't. Contained on this memory stick, was a 30min video of my wife, with two other guys! Well, 3 if you include the guy behind the camera! I just cant believe what I have found, and i really don't know what to do now? I do love her very much, and i know she has not cheated before, not like this anyways, she simply doesn't have the time. She is either at work, or at home with me. Sorry for the long post, and thank you for reading.
weedsandposies Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Is there a date on the video? Maybe it was made before you guys met? People that want to cheat will find the time. Have you confronted her? Do you have more evidence of her cheating?
Chi townD Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Sorry dude. But, I don't think you're going to work through this. I would have to wonder if she was comfortable enough to have a gang bang, how often has she been cheating throughout your relationship. And the simple fact that she KEPT the memory stick shows me that she has no remorse for what she's done. If she felt guilty and remorseful for her behavior, she wouldn't even want to touch that thing, let alone keep it for future viewing. She has put your health and and your life at risk. You need to get to the Doctor and get a clean bill of health. Stats show that trying to recover a marriage when a spouse actually see's their significant other in the act of cheating.....well, the odd for reconciling are not in your favor. You will NEVER get those images out of your mind. Make a copy of that file on your own memory stick and keep it for safe keeping for your lawyer if you need it. You need to see a lawyer and see what your options are. 3
jnj express Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 besides the video---of her doing it with 3 other guys---of which you don't know when it occurred, but you probably think w/in the last 7 yrs, that you have been with her---what about the night in N. Y, People have fights all the time, they don't go running off, turn off their phone, and sneaking in at 4 a m---- You need to find out what is going on---1st you need to find out what happened---that night---did she have a ONS---if so what were the circumstances, of her hooking--up If this is the way she is gonna be, when you have a marital disagreement, or problem---YOU GOT MAJOR PROBLEMS You need to confront---as to the night in N Y---and as to the video----be calm, and cool---allow no emotions to come in---just stick to your task----AND YOU USE D, IF NECESSARY, AS A WEAPON, TO GET ANSWERS Also you demand a POLYGRAPH---to make sure this all the truth---for a poly---go to your closest police station---they will help you set it up DO NOT LET ANY OF THIS GET SWEPT UNDER THE RUG---not knowing is gonna tear you up, way more, than knowing---so find out what is going on---so you can make a knowledgeable decision, about whether you wanna spend any more time with this woman, at all. If that video, is of her night in N Y---your wife is a lamebrain---what woman by herself, goes off with 3 strange men, in a town that she is vacationing in---these guys could have done anything to her, and she could not have stopped it---but from her attitude whatever did happen, she went with it, all the way. 2
dreamingoftigers Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 One doesn't just go from 0 cheating to a filmed gangbang with 3 strangers. Think about that....... 11
CarrieT Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 One doesn't just go from 0 cheating to a filmed gangbang with 3 strangers. ^^^^ THIS ^^^^ There is a LOT more going on with this woman than a single one-off (ooops - THREE-OFF?) gangbang... 6
drifter777 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Why would she keep a copy of a video like this that stamps her as a complete slut and could end her marriage? Seems really odd to me. Folks have asked other questions on this thread so please take the time to help fill in the blanks.
oldshirt Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Yeah that is pretty over the top. More questions are being raised here than any answers. For starters I question whether this post is even for real. Her slipping into the hotel room at dawn and then him finding some guys phone # in her jacket pocket and a hickey on her neck is one thing. Finding a memory card of a gang bang is a whole other universe. In order for her to have possession of the card means that she has some kind of stake or some kind of investment into that gang bang. Either she was making some extra $$$ on the side doing amateur porn or she was involved in some kind of swinging relationship with another partner at some point. Guys make porn clips and keep them for themselves. Women don't make and keep porn for their own amusement. The fact that she has it means that it holds some kind of other value for her. In the vid does she look significantly younger like this may have taken place previously? Did she ever do any kind of modeling work and may have shot some porn for $$ in college or did she used to have a Drug problem and needed quick and easy $$? Was she ever in a swinging relationship with another partner? This isn't a garden variety wife tearing off a little fling cause she is bored or frustrated at her husband. This isn't adding up and the validity of this post is suspect. Either the OP needs to come back with a whole lot more information and background or this is likely a troll. 1
stillafool Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Tell me, what husband (or wife) would find such a video and not immediately confront the spouse about this s.hit?
oldshirt Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 I wouldn't suggest that, but I WOULD suggest you ask someone in the industry if she's a known porn actor. Or... hire a PI 2 find out for you. But! There's nothing here 2 save. Sorry. I'd run for the hills as fast and far as you can. YESTERDAY. -ol' 2long There really are no "known" porn actors anymore. Gone are the days of the Hollywood porn studios and now everyone can make their own porn clip in their own basement, backyard or at the park. Back in the day a gal could make several thousand dollars a day shooting a movie for a professional porn company in California or New York. Now someone may be lucky to get a few hundred bucks from some guy in Anytown USA while doing an anal gang bang with a dozen donkeys. If this post is real at all (which I really doubt) she either got some meth money in college from some boiler room porn producer wannabe, or she was in some kind of swinging relationship with a previous partner and she got the memory card as part of the arraignment for letting him shoot the encounter.
Chi townD Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 So, you guys think we have bunnies hopping around here? (I'm not allowed to call anybody a troll, I got my pee pee smacked for it. So, I refer to questionable posters as bunnies. Who gets mad at bunnies!........except for Daffy) 2
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