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Three months post breakup I got a "how was your day?" text and an invite for lunch out of the blue. I declined.

I have been very proud of myself for doing that, and it was a lucky timing, because I felt on the upper wave of the roller-coaster at the time.

 

Now I am in the lower parts, I cry all the time and I wonder what it is that he wanted to say over lunch? I miss him so badly.

These few months have thought me that it is better to be alone than in a relationship when you are not loved. But I also realised how much I love him. The feeling of missing him is more intense then ever.

 

Do you guys think it would be ok to just simply ask him what it is that he wanted to say over lunch? I know it would mean breaking NC, but what if he was going to say all those things I am still hoping to hear. Such as: I am sorry, I love you, please come back to me. (ah, even reading this... it sounds so unrealistic, but then why did he want to have lunch? We clearly decided not to be friends. He hasn't done anything like this before.)

 

How did you get over this stage? Or how do you cope? I feel like up until now I have been focused on building my independence, and now that I feel better than when I was with him I start missing him? Why is this?

 

Some insight would be very much appreciated.

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No, no, no, no, NO.

 

You've hit your 'wall'.

 

It sucks, but if you make any kind of contact now, you'll regret it for ever, and in 3 months' time find yourself precisely where you are now.

If it had really been that important for you to know - he would have tried to tell you in any way possible.

 

Please, whatever you do, however close you come - do NOT break No Contact!

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No, no, no, no, NO.

 

You've hit your 'wall'.

 

It sucks, but if you make any kind of contact now, you'll regret it for ever, and in 3 months' time find yourself precisely where you are now.

If it had really been that important for you to know - he would have tried to tell you in any way possible.

 

Please, whatever you do, however close you come - do NOT break No Contact!

A thousand times this.

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Thanks. I haven't broken NC.

 

But it is killing me. I miss him so much. I feel like crawling into a hole and never coming out again.

 

I love him so much. And I wish there was a way for us to be happy.

 

To hell with him!!!

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