Spelunker Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 My ex-GF and I spit up just about a year ago. It took some time and effort on my part, but I finally got over her, let go, coped, healed, and moved on. Initially and for some time, my heart was shattered. I lurked on this site to get insight on the coping, etc. However, I received a random text message from her recently. She asked me if I'd like to meet her for drinks. I have not responded. I don't know why she happened to reach out now, after a year. After she was the one who dumped me and moved on so quickly/easily. Why is she doing this? Thanks.
mammasita Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 If I were a betting person, I would put my money on just got dumped or rejected and needs an emotional crutch. 7
Coping Vortex Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 If I were a betting person, I would put my money on just got dumped or rejected and needs an emotional crutch. I second that.
TaraMaiden Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Oh yeah. Either that, or she's wondering if she can still yank your chain and rattle your cage.... Leave it be, do not respond. 2
lovelifexx Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 I had an ex contact me after a year. He had been single for a few months. He sent a really heart felt apology and we became "friends". I was actually totally fine with that as i had moved on. But as soon as he met someone else i never heard from him again. So no we werent really friends. 1
Chi townD Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Meh....it's up to you, it's been a year. If you have no romantic feelings for her and you're strong enough to know if she jerking you along; you can get up and leave. But, if you still have romantic feelings for her, then do not break NC. My opinion, she wants to friend zone you. 2
headsashed Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 If you have no feelings for ur ex then by all means respond, but if you do then continue NC. Chances are ur ex is just pulling on that lead to see if ur still there because she has recently become single.
Author Spelunker Posted June 7, 2013 Author Posted June 7, 2013 Thank you for all of the insightful replies/comments. It's very helpful for me to better understand all of this. I'm heavily leaning toward "letting sleeping dogs lie." I've happily moved on and am enjoying life again. I don't need someone (namely she) to help me achieve that (or ruin it). 3
LostOne1 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 My advice is ignore her. you moved on and it's not like you ever will get back together. So what is the real point in replying back to her? I'd say ignore her and give her a taste of her own medicine. You suffered and then you survived. Now she can suffer and she will also survive. Both of you move on and find happiness else where. Just ignore it and enjoy your life for better things are to come
Ordinaryday Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 I had an ex do this once. this particular ex treated me like crap, always stood me up, cancelled dates, basically took me for granted and then dumped me. six months later I get the same kind of text from her. I responded happily, telling her I would love to meet up, we arranged it and then I simply never showed up. didn't text her to cancel or anything, just did not show up. I got a few texts from her afterwards asking what was going on, I just ignored them. gave her a taste of her own medicine. it felt good.
GB25 Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 I had an ex do this once. this particular ex treated me like crap, always stood me up, cancelled dates, basically took me for granted and then dumped me. six months later I get the same kind of text from her. I responded happily, telling her I would love to meet up, we arranged it and then I simply never showed up. didn't text her to cancel or anything, just did not show up. I got a few texts from her afterwards asking what was going on, I just ignored them. gave her a taste of her own medicine. it felt good.[/QU Amazing i love that
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