HeartBrokenn Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Hi everyone, I posted this before, but I realized my thread got cut off..probably because it's too long. Anyways, I'll post the shorter version of it here. I met my boyfriend a year ago. We met at the elevator on the way to a school event. I was a first year undergraduate student and he was a first year graduate student. We are both new to this school, and we were one of each other's first few friend. Our relationship escalated really fast. We exchanged text messages every night for a week (he always text first), few dates the next two weeks and by the fourth week, we were together. We went out, became even more closer, and I truly fell in love with him. He treated me like a princess, showered me with a lot of love. Then...he met a girl at a party through some friends. He started mentioning this girl randomly at times. I know he mentions her to see if I will get jealous and to see if I really love him (I'm not as expressive as he is). Even though I know they are innocent, another part of me believes that she might have meant something to him. If not, why does he keep mentioning her? Based on what he tells me, they texts sometimes, just casual texts. Whenever I am mad at him, he will be like "Let me go find...." to make me jealous. After a while, we started to have our own small problems. I felt that I wasn't as attractive as he wants because he will make small, harmless comments about the way I look. But then ironically, he calls me beautiful and adorable at random times though. I finally asked for a break up because I feel that he can't accept me for who I am. We broke up. I kept NC all the time. At random times during our breakup, he would sent me "catch-up" text messages to see how I was, and I told him I was not over him and I needed space. He is always the one to break NC, I never did (only replied to his messages). He asked me to hang out a couple of times. I only went twice. Once I rejected with a lame excuse. Another I canceled a hour beforehand, which I know is really, really mean..but something came up. And the last, I canceled because I realized it clashed with my best friend's birthday the day before, so I told him to reschedule. I think that made him distance himself, because I didn't seem to show any sincere sign of reconciling. He became not confidence with himself. Text me randomly, conversation got awkward, so he decided not to reply. Happened a few times...=/ But then, if someone really wants to talk to you, they will try right? Now I am confused, what part of the relationship are we at? I feel that he might be seeing another girl, and he is just keeping me around. I feel this because he only text me at night time, and when I text him during the day, he sometimes don't reply until later on. But then...he is kind of busy. I don't know what art of the relationship we are at right now...How do I communicate with him?
aisuru Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 This sounds like a typical "kind of like you" relationship/dating experience around your age. If I were in your shoes, I would move on. You've both uncertain as evidenced by your actions. Move on. You're young. These are your prime dating years. Enjoy them! 1
Author HeartBrokenn Posted June 8, 2013 Author Posted June 8, 2013 This sounds like a typical "kind of like you" relationship/dating experience around your age. If I were in your shoes, I would move on. You've both uncertain as evidenced by your actions. Move on. You're young. These are your prime dating years. Enjoy them! I really wanted to know why he suddenly drifted away...is it really because the conversations are awkward? Do guys really stop trying this easily...?
elle2012 Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 to me i feel like there could be something but its not straight up. he needs to be clear with you on what he wants. my ex and i broke up and i have seem similar behavior. the thing is that he might be dating other girls and at the same time testing you so he can have something to fall back to. my ex tried the same with me so i cut him off. its the best idea for us because at least i know that if hes moved on i wasnt used as second choice i would rather be first then last in his heart than be played with.
Author HeartBrokenn Posted June 8, 2013 Author Posted June 8, 2013 to me i feel like there could be something but its not straight up. he needs to be clear with you on what he wants. my ex and i broke up and i have seem similar behavior. the thing is that he might be dating other girls and at the same time testing you so he can have something to fall back to. my ex tried the same with me so i cut him off. its the best idea for us because at least i know that if hes moved on i wasnt used as second choice i would rather be first then last in his heart than be played with. Does you ex gave you a lot of attentions when he tried to contact you too? How did you find out?
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