Sloan Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Just like to say for those who read this post, THANK YOU, and I really appreciate your help! In January, my ex broke it off with me after three years of dating. She is 18 and I am twenty. The reasoning for the break up is still up in the air as I never asked her because I knew she would lie all about it, but I knew she met two other guys, and saw them while I was with her. She has been dating one of them ever since we ended. I took it like a man, and never said anything to her after. I didn't get angry at her, or anything of that nature. It was one of the hardest things I have ever gone through as I put so much effort into making her a better person rather then myself. She struggled very much before I met her, and now she is going off to college. She has cheated (physically) on me once before this as well within the first year of dating. ANYWAY, tonight was the first time I knew I might see her, at my younger brothers prom ceremony. Nearing the end, a friend said my ex was constantly looking over at me but I didn't really pay attention to her because I didn't really want to see her (I didn't have anything to say). Eventually, she came over and said, "Hey how are you" and I was just so lost to why she was doing this. The first thing I noticed was that she put my necklace I gave her for her birthday two years ago, and I was so confused to why she did this. I replied, "Good, how are you". "Great". I then asked, "what are you plans for college", and she told me where she was going and I told her where I was transferring. After that I legit for the first time struggled to make conversation. I was so blindsided and didn't have anything to say to her that I didn't say anything. She continued to say that she just wanted to come over and say hi and see how I was doing and I replied "okay". Dumb reply I know, but I just didn't understand what was going on. The whole time I was thinking in my head, I kind of understand why she is saying "hi" but this girl possibly physically cheated on me, definitely emotionally cheated on me, put me in so much misery and pain, and is acting so confident in front of me like she did absolutely nothing and that we can just talk like nothing happened. It just confused me and I wasn't sure how to take it. I didn't understand why she was wearing my necklace as well.. Honestly, I never had been in so much pain in my life during this break up, because I gave up everything, all of my interest, friends, etc. and I never thought I would make it through to the other side. But I am up and putting one foot in front of the other. Let me know what you think.
aisuru Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 You did well. Continue to place one foot in front of the other. You'll be okay. Heartbreaks are hard and take time to heal from. It's okay to take that time and ride the tidal waves of emotion up and down through the healing process.
lovelifexx Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 She believes that she is showing you that she cares by coming up and talking to you. She feels guilty and wants to make everything "ok" between you two. She is emotionally immature. I feel for you. I felt like this break up would destroy me at times....You are doing well. xx
itto ogami Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 She is young and immature - and she wants her cake and eat it too. You did fine. You're young and there's a world of better women awaiting you.
Jon Lock Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 I agree with most of what is said above. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. You will get there. Perseverance.
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