edelveis Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Almost 2 weeks with no contact and i feel like my life is ruined.my life lacks meaning,i feel like i have no purpose in life.I cant fiind motivation in nothing.i cant really concentrate on antyhing.i am thinkin of her all day and night.i really miss her and cant help it,there are moments when i think i cant take it anymore and i want to take the phone and text her:"okay i forgive you,come back to me".I am the one who ended things and i ve started wondering if i made the right choice.I am thinking to start smoking too coz maybe it can help me remain strong.i am so pathetic guys and i am really tired.i just cant stop thinking about her and i really worry if she is thinking of me too or she is just moving on with her life.do you think she has totally forgotten me?like i am never in her mind anymore?
simplyamazing Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I saw the best avatar ever on this forum somewhere. 'Look at you, living, and ****." Stay NC, get invested in work, goto the gym... find something to keep you occupied. It gets easier. 1
Author edelveis Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 metal chick i agree with you that it doesnt matter but i just cant stop thinking about her.i walked away coz i have a lot of respect for myself but i dont know whats happening now.i had brek ups in the past again but nothing compares to this.i ve never felt this way. Simplyamazing i tried to start again going to the gym,i try to focus on my exams,hang out with friends but nothing can make me forget.its like i can find no rest.my mind is always on her no matter how hard i try.its driving me insane.i dont know how long i can take it
Author edelveis Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 NC has always helped me in the past too.This time it feels different but i am sure will work great in the end.thanks for your support dude. 1
Chris715 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I'm in the exact same situation man. 2 weeks no contact with her and I'm constantly thinking about what she's doing, if she's forgotten about me, if she cares, etc. I really can't help I'm afraid, because we're feeling a similar pain and if I had an answer I'd share it
nugget_718 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Almost 2 weeks with no contact and i feel like my life is ruined.my life lacks meaning,i feel like i have no purpose in life.I cant fiind motivation in nothing.i cant really concentrate on antyhing.i am thinkin of her all day and night.i really miss her and cant help it,there are moments when i think i cant take it anymore and i want to take the phone and text her:"okay i forgive you,come back to me".I am the one who ended things and i ve started wondering if i made the right choice.I am thinking to start smoking too coz maybe it can help me remain strong.i am so pathetic guys and i am really tired.i just cant stop thinking about her and i really worry if she is thinking of me too or she is just moving on with her life.do you think she has totally forgotten me?like i am never in her mind anymore? You feel that way because the BU is still fresh. The first month is when one dissects the relationship. The more you think about it, the more that the thought of the SO consumes you. BTW, starting a habit (smoking) 'aint gonna help you one bit. Distract yourself with other things...positive things...like starting a hobby or reaching out to friends or family that you probably neglected while you were in the RS. It's amazing how many people lost touch with friends/families when things are peachy with the SO. 2
Calvin's wagon Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Hi. Read "No more mr. Nice guy" by Robert Glover, "Toxic parents" by Susan Forward. Both availaible for free online in PDF. Read more books, talk to your friends, think about therapy. Read about relaxation techniques. Start yoga, meditation etc. Talk to your friends - whenever you start missing her so much you can't function, call one of them so they can shout at you. Have a rotation of them for you to go to the gym with. Try to ask your friends (or people/schoolmates at the library) to study with you for common exams. Ask your relatives to study with you for other exams. Try to not be alone so much. When you're alone and can't turn to anyone, can't go exhaust yourself with physical activity - start writing down each and every single way she hurt you and showed you your life would be a hell of lies, uncertanties, betrayals,..., if you got back together with her, and by time when, if, she got better, you'd be nothing but a shell of a man you are. Stop idolizing her, stop listening to old love songs etc. so much. Yes, do it for a little time, but try to slowly cut down on the amount of time you grieve after her. And seriously - start to get to know yourself and work on yourself! Go check my previous posts - how many more flags would you need? And you still tried, and you still miss her so much, would take her back? Sorry, but i think there's a big chance you have some big issues, like codependancy etc. Just like I did. We both have (had) to address them. Yes, grieve, be sad, it's necessary for a while, but start doing every day more and more things to get over her. Time and hard work on yourself will help you get over her. Best wishes 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Hey, I was going to suggest mediation too Especially 'mindful' meditation!! 1
thefooloftheyear Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 You will look back at this time and really say to yourself, "what was I thinking"?? No one, including this one woman, has any control over someones life...Eff that.. You just need more time, thats all. TFY 4
flitzanu Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Almost 2 weeks with no contact and i feel like my life is ruined.my life lacks meaning,i feel like i have no purpose in life.I cant fiind motivation in nothing.i cant really concentrate on antyhing.i am thinkin of her all day and night.i really miss her and cant help it,there are moments when i think i cant take it anymore and i want to take the phone and text her:"okay i forgive you,come back to me".I am the one who ended things and i ve started wondering if i made the right choice.I am thinking to start smoking too coz maybe it can help me remain strong.i am so pathetic guys and i am really tired.i just cant stop thinking about her and i really worry if she is thinking of me too or she is just moving on with her life.do you think she has totally forgotten me?like i am never in her mind anymore? you dumped her, why does it matter if she forgot about you? the way you're talking, you sound like she dumped you. if you want her that badly, then be with her. 1
aloneinaz Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Yea I'm confused. You're dying after DUMPING someone and now you're in NC? I don't know why you dumped her but you should call her then. Maybe there's more to this story? Why did you dump her if you're so hung up on her?
aisuru Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Maybe you have to find meaning in your own life for yourself. Don't rely on somebody else to give your life meaning. No wonder you wanted out of the relationship. You don't know who you are by yourself. Work on you first. Then worry about being in a relationship. 3
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Maybe you have to find meaning in your own life for yourself. Don't rely on somebody else to give your life meaning. No wonder you wanted out of the relationship. You don't know who you are by yourself. Work on you first. Then worry about being in a relationship. ^^^ Yes, I believe this is the real heart of the matter for many of us. I suspect this is the reason why a large percentage of us are really here. At least this is where I'm at right now. 1
Author edelveis Posted June 8, 2013 Author Posted June 8, 2013 Chris715 yeah i think we are in a familliar situation.be strong my friend and never forget that this person hurted you.i ll be glad to hear from you and your progress in any possible way. Aloneiaz its not that i left her because i wanted.i m still in love with her but i had to walk away from her.read my 2 previous threads and u will understand everything.flitzanu u can do the same and then u can understand why.sometimes in life we have to make desicions like these. And now my friends calvin's wagoon and aisuru its not that i have no meaning in my life on my own.but sometimes after a break up you feel a void inside you that cant be filled.i wrote my thread when i was feeling desperate.i didnt say i am gonna take her back,i just told that sometimes the pain is so heavy that i cant take it anymore.the desicion i took was not easy and NOT EVEYRYONE could follow it no matter how logically somebody wants to present it.Also i am not listenng to love songs ,i only here songs which say that we are done forever.i am a strong person but we all have our week moments.But thank you all for your support coz today i feel better and stronger.
Author edelveis Posted June 13, 2013 Author Posted June 13, 2013 hi my friend.check my last respones on my thread "i found the girl i was dating with someone else" in cheating and jeoulsu session.i need your oppinion there for sure
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