Do beautiful women have problems ...

[tbf]

We go though all of the heartbreak attractive people go through too

That's my point. Everyone goes through heartbreak. To hold attractive people to a higher bar than you're willing to hold yourself, would be a hypocritical stance.

[Hopeful30]

I think beautiful women have trouble because they have high standards (which is fine, but its harder to find a guy they like)

 

There are lots of good men out there who can look beyond looks and won't just use a girl for that... but those guys are usually the ones that are too shy to even talk to her

[JuneJulySeptember]

That's my point. Everyone goes through heartbreak. To hold attractive people to a higher bar than you're willing to hold yourself, would be a hypocritical stance.

 

Unattractive people go through more heartbreak and frustration.

 

I think in terms of liberal politics. If you're wealthy (financially) or even middle class, you could think you have it as bad as poor people and do nothing. Or you could recognize your advantage, and help them.

 

In dating (and really in society outside of dating), if you're attractive, you could think you have it as bad as everybody else, or you could realize you were born with an advantage and put your attractiveness to good use. I won't go further than that, because I know how much the next part pisses people off.

Edited June 8, 2013 by JuneJulySeptember

[hppr]

99% of the 'problems' gorgeous females have could be solved by them choosing better men to be involved with andbetter female ffriends.

 

Once you realize that those women are picking those bad female friends/idiot boyfriends because they are a reflection of themselves it all makes sense though.

[tbf]

In dating (and really in society outside of dating), if you're attractive, you could think you have it as bad as everybody else, or you could realize you were born with an advantage and put your attractiveness to good use. I won't go further than that, because I know how much the next part pisses people off.

Yes, like mercy date ugly men. Not a chance.

[2sure]

Being attractive to the opposite sex, having above average intelligence, or being wealthy doesn't make you not have problems...its sometimes a different set of problems, but like everything with this kind of comparison , it turns out to be relative. I've traded being young for being 48, I've traded struggling to having more than many, I'm disappointed I'm still not as smart as people seem to expect I am...

 

It's all a trade off .

[JuneJulySeptember]

Yes, like mercy date ugly men. Not a chance.

 

Jeez. What an ugly statement.

 

Not necessarily what I was referring to.

 

People are drawn to attractive people. In dating and beyond. You could use your attractiveness to make people happy. Hook less attractive women up because more men will be more drawn to you. Use your god given attractiveness and call an ugly guy cute. Maybe you just made his year. Who knows?

 

Ya know. Here's a good clip I like.

 

Edited June 8, 2013 by JuneJulySeptember

[tbf]

Jeez. What an ugly statement.

 

Not necessarily what I was referring to.

 

People are drawn to attractive people. In dating and beyond. You could use your attractiveness to make people happy. Hook less attractive women up because more men will be more drawn to you. Use your god given attractiveness and call an ugly guy cute. Maybe you just made his year. Who knows?

 

Ya know.

And once again, holding attractive people to a higher standard while showing zero compassion for attractive people. How can any rational mind think in such hypocritical terms?

[Imajerk17]

Wait...isn't that what women try to do all the time--try to hook up their less physically attractive female friends? What you were proposing has already been done to mixed success (guys don't like being set up with someone they aren't attracted to).

 

Meanwhile you go out and get your own woman. And why would you want a woman to LIE and tell a guy that she doesn't find attractive that she does?

 

Stop whining.

[JuneJulySeptember]

And once again, holding attractive people to a higher standard while showing zero compassion for attractive people. How can any rational mind think in such hypocritical terms?

 

You misunderstand me.

 

I don't have zero compassion for attractive people. Attractive people lose loved ones, fail at their ambitions, etc.

 

But it's an advantage. Just like me being born fairly well off is an advantage. You can use it to help people, or think you are just as bad off as everybody else. That is all.

[tbf]

You misunderstand me.

 

I don't have zero compassion for attractive people. Attractive people lose loved ones, fail at their ambitions, etc.

 

But it's an advantage. Just like me being born fairly well off is an advantage. You can use it to help people, or think you are just as bad off as everybody else. That is all.

You're confusing two very distinct concepts. Attractive and unattractive people have problems (heartbreak, frustration) where the ones that wish to help themselves, will do so and learn from it. The ones that won't help themselves, instead, playing who's the biggest victim game, probably deserve their issues if they're recurring issues.

 

Whether people wish to be charitable towards others in quantifiable terms has nothing to do with physical attractiveness or not.

[JuneJulySeptember]

You're confusing two very distinct concepts. Attractive and unattractive people have problems (heartbreak, frustration) where the ones that wish to help themselves, will do so and learn from it. The ones that won't help themselves, instead, playing who's the biggest victim game, probably deserve their issues if they're recurring issues.

 

Whether people wish to be charitable towards others in quantifiable terms has nothing to do with physical attractiveness or not.

 

In my mind, it's the same thing.

 

If a very wealthy person said to me that he had it just as bad as a homeless person, that's not an attitude I'd appreciate.

 

Of course, the homeless person whining all day and night about it isn't great either.

 

But I'm not doing that right now. Just musing.

 

Yes. I believe unattractive people have it tougher in dating. Suffer more pain. I don't think that's anything new or revolutionary.

[spiderowl]

I'm a bit dumbfounded because I can hardly keep up with the replies in this thread. It's great that so many have taken the trouble to respond.

 

For me, well I can't really put myself into the position of someone who is beautiful but if a guy is attracted to your looks, then he doesn't know anything about personality at first, is just drawn to her. Surely that must feel a bit weird for the woman?

[daisybuchanan55]

Yes, attractive women have problems. They are just different problems.

 

I went through a pretty wicked puberty/adolescence/hs though where I got NO attention from guys. I was definitely a late bloomer. So I have had BOTH sets of problems.

 

Honestly, I'd rather have the problems I have now. I was so unhappy before. It wasn't ALL due to my looks, but it's true--looks do a play a major part in a person's self-esteem. All areas of my life improved when I took control of my appearance.

 

Notice I said "took control." I think a lot of people on this forum act like there is nothing can do to make themselves better looking. So not true! There is PLENTY you can do. You just have to make that decision to commit yourself.

 

That being said, here are the problems I have experienced as an "attractive" woman:

 

1. Other women hate you. You really have to go out of your way to show you aren't an unfriendly bitch.

 

2. Men assume you are dumb as a rock until you prove otherwise. This is more of an issue in professional situations. You have to work so much harder for the respect of people.

 

3. You feel like a lot of your success in life could go down the toilet the second your looks fade. I've seen the dramatic improvements in my life I've made since I got better looking and fear what would happen if my looks faded/were altered in any way. Thank God I developed a personality/intellect/got educated and experienced life "before" I looked like I do now. I can't imagine how awful and helpless I'd feel if I'd grown up beautiful my entire life and relied on my looks for everything.

 

I am acquainted with quite a few gorgeous girls who are, in my opinion, REALLY boring. Their problems are as follows:

 

1. No personality. Can't imagine they'd have any friends if they didn't look like they do.

 

2. Men with them for looks only. This is a fact. Real risk of husbands leaving them when they get old.

 

3. Some girls take their bodies/weight SO seriously and end up miserable because of it. The latest thing I've encountered are juice cleanses, which I would never do. They basically involve not eating for days and just drinking juice. They end up depressed, irritable and STARVING. Not a good way to go through life and really not worth it in my opinion.

 

Honestly, that's about it off the top of my head. It would be silly to think being attractive isn't a major advantage. It is for BOTH sexes.

[Babolat]

My ex gf and I met this weekend to talk out some of our issues. One of the issues I expressed, with lot of reservations, is the attention she gets on Facebook from her male friends. At first she said "Oh that just him being funny, we've been friends for many years". Or "I am good friends with him and hsi wife, it's just good fun". And some of that made sense to me. When I told her I would not leave flirtatious comments on any of my FB females friends pages she said "And that is one reason why I like you!".

 

After I shared some more of the comments I have read, she did acknowledge some of the comments felt inappropriate to her.

 

She said she has struggled and dealt with being attractive her whole life and the attention, good and bad, she gets as a result of it.

[sweetkiwi]

Do beautiful women have problems because guys are so attracted to their looks and maybe don't think beyond that? What effect does this have on such women?

 

Actually it had been my experience that everyone has problems.

 

But your question has some validity. I come from southern California and am in the beauty industry. Suffice to say I know some very beautiful people. The majority of which appear to be rather shallow and selfinvolved. I know some of these people personally and unfortunately my view didn't change much.

 

Being an attractive person myself I can safely say that it is frustrating to be judged on my outward appearance. My true beauty lies within and is a product of my upbringing and how I have shaped myself since.

[will1988]

Do beautiful women have problems because guys are so attracted to their looks and maybe don't think beyond that? What effect does this have on such women?

 

I was actually watching an MTV's True Life episode about this very question. Two attractive women, one was a guidett and the other a blonde air head. The blonde bombshell was smoking hot. However, she did not even have her high school diploma or GED, she talked like a valley girl, she openly admitted to being dumb, she was slow to talk and answer... when she talked she had this blank stair on her face like a child waiting for the guy to pop out of the jack-in-the-box. She wore stripper clothes too. She had problems with men. They showed her on a blind date and this guy was feeling her up within the first few minutes... she admited to having the same problems with guys before. I felt a little bad for her. However, if all you pride yourself on is your looks, and nothing else, and you dress like a stripper... you should not be expected to be treated with dignity and respect if you can't even treat yourself that way. She treats her self as a sex object, and that is how men treat her. Sure if I was a single guy and she wanted to date or screw I would not bat an eyelash to that. Yet, she is not the "bring home to mom" kind of girl. I could personally never be in a relationship with someone who has nothing but air between their ears and is very shallow. So long answer short. Yes attractive women and men for that matter can have a hard time finding a decent partner. However, that is a self made problem. They base themselves mostly on looks, they expect everyone to worship them, and they only go after guys or girls for looks... and then they wonder why the guys will wine, dine, and f*ck and dump them!

[Babolat]

I am an attractive, good looking male, so I have been told by many woman, and I think I look pretty good myself. Nothing wrong with thinking that way in my opinion. And yeah, sometimes I do think I have it easier than other men; though in the end it's what's inside me that has to be attractive to myself and to a potential partner. And, i do not assume every woman is attracted to me.

 

My ex gf was VERY attractive, tall, blonde, blue eyes, buxom, curves in the right places, all that.

 

She has an incrediable personality though, very charming, funny, goofy, silly, very social, smart, intelligent, adventerous, warm, caring, etc. All of my family and friends who met her all said the same thing "I just love being around her!".

 

To this day her looks intoxicate me almost, yet her other qualities draw me to her more. And sometimes I wondered if I was too much into her looks...I don't think so, as I broke it off with her for other reasons.

 

So we all have our issues and problems to deal with. Like yourself first, be attracted to yourself first, then like folks will want to be around you.